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How often do you have a gut feeling about a certain situation, but eventually go with someone else's decision?
There is a firm belief that if you can see the small, the bigger situations become glaring.
I was amongst an incident the other evening when a group of husbands were in conversation at a bar. The selection of wives were seated some twenty strides away.
One of the ladies had visited the bathroom and on her way back to the other ladies came to chat with the men. Everyone for a moment had spotted that this lady had high heels on and had a trial of toilet paper following her, attached to her heel.
This very distinguished lady wasn't aware one jot! The men almost felt embarrassed to tell her. I stood forward and whispered in her ear. As she left I stood on the paper and then as she moved away her dignity wasn't even questioned. I gathered up the evidence and disposed accordingly.
Seeing the obvious and knowing what to do in an instant is a quality few choose to develop.
I now have a glorious smile each time I see this lady. The other men may have offered to help eventually, but their slow response may affect other opportunities that may come their way.
Too many people strive to create the right impression. Why strive? Why not be? Instead of being brave when you need to impress, why not be brave naturally, then you'll never need to worry, because it will become second nature.
Today's story is about being you. Being what you are and not want everyone wants you to be. Don't try and be reliable; be reliable! Don't try and be honest, be honest!
THINGS AREN'T ALWAYS AS THEY SEEM...
Once there was a time, according to legend, when Ireland was ruled by a king who had no son. The king sent out his couriers to post notices in all the towns of his realm. The notices advised that every qualified young man should apply for an interview with the king as a possible successor to the throne. However, all such candidates must have these two qualifications: They must (1) love God and (2) love their fellow human beings.
The Young man about whom this legend centres saw a notice and reflected that he loved God and, also, his neighbours. One thing stopped him however, he was so poor that he had no clothes that would be presentable in the sight of the king. Nor did he have the funds to buy provisions for the long journey to the castle.
So the young man begged here, and borrowed there, finally managing to scrounge enough money for the appropriate clothes and the necessary supplies.
Properly attired and well-suited, the young man set out on his quest, and had almost completed the journey when he came upon a poor beggar by the side of the road. The beggar sat trembling, clad only in tattered rags. His extended arms pleaded for help. His weak voice croaked, "I'm hungry and cold. Please help me... please?"
The young man was so moved by this beggar's need that he immediately stripped off his new clothes and put on the tattered threads of the beggar. Without a second thought he gave the beggar all his provision as well. Then, somewhat hesitantly, he continued his journey to the castle dressed in the rags of the beggar, lacking provisions for his return trek home. Upon his arrival at the castle, a king's attendant showed him in to the great hall. After a brief respite to clean off the journey's grime, he was finally admitted to the throne room of the king.
The young man bowed low before his majesty. When he raised his eyes, he gaped in astonishment. "You... it's you! You're the beggar by the side of the road."
"Yes, " the king replied with a twinkle, "I was that beggar."
"But...bu...bu... you are not really a beggar. You are the king for real. Well, then, why did you do this to me?" the young man stammered after gaining more of his composure.
"Because I had to find out if you genuinely love God and your fellow human beings, " said the king. "I knew that if I came to you as king, you would have been impressed by my gem-encrusted golden crown and my royal robes. You would have done anything I asked of you because of my regal character. But that way I would never have known what is truly in your heart. So I used a ruse. I came to you as a beggar with no claims on you except for the love in your heart. And I discovered that you sincerely do love God and your fellow human beings. You will be my successor, " promised the king. "You will inherit my kingdom."
(Unknown Author)
QUOTE: 'If you want to be respected, you must respect yourself.'
(Spanish Proverb).
What should I do? Parent problems?
I am 23 and I am having problems with my dad that I can't seem to solve. You see my dad is a very stubborn person and has never admitted to being wrong in his life and so generally blames it on someone else. In fact I don't think I have ever heard him say sorry in my entire life. This involves anything including illness and just talking in general. He will just shut out other people's opinions and advice and just depend on his own when it is the wrong thing, and sometimes likes to get snappy if you bring it it more than once.
I graduated last year with top marks from university and came to stay with my dad while I got myself on my feet. Since graduation I became a freelance illustrator and worked all the time in my bedroom until now because I recently got a job as a part-time graphic designer.
My dad has a very successful job and because of this he spends a lot of time in his office doing work till stupid hours at night. This has made our relationship completely non-existant at times. His office is right next to my room and generally I don't like to disturb him as he just replies with "I'm just doing this" or "We'll talk later". Generally the only conversation I get out of him is when he is hungry and wants take out so goes out of his way to come to my room and ask what I want to eat.
The other times we speak to each other is when he comes to shout at me about something. We generally eat our own meals in different rooms at different times and so I generally wash up my own plates and such and then go back to work. This is where problems start.
My dad generally likes to make out that I am a lazy, useless person. If I try to argue back and defend myself then he will never listen and assumes that he must be 100% right. This usually consists of arguments about me not cleaning his tea mugs or washing his plates at certain hours of the day that he expects within his mind to be done by. When I finish eating and wash my things I generally rewash my dads stuff as well as he has a two year old daughter that he sees on the weekends and so I don't want her getting ill from dirty dishes or bottles that have been splashed with water as he generally likes to rush through whatever he is doing. We also have a bath that leaks into the kitchen when you accidently overflow it which I have done sometimes and so has he but he just seems to explode when I accidently do it.
While I was a freelance illustrator and basically unemployed I suffered from a few months of depression with the fact that I couldn't find work and that my dad was too busy to talk to me. My dad has always relied on himself and kept to himself, and in some ways I feel that this has made me follow the same path but whenever I tried to speak to him about he would just say "It will be ok" and then go on his merry way.
The thing is that this constant cycle has been getting to me a lot. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we hope to have our own place one day. I would probably have moved out by now if the pay for my job wasn't so bad so I feel like I am stuck here in my dad's house and in some ways I feel like I am stuck in the way of my dad's own life. I don't know if he is taking these little things out on me because of work stress/ overworking or that he might just be sick of me being in his house and doesn't want me around anymore but it is making me feel really down about myself and I know that I can't talk to him about it because he will just say I am "lazy and useless" and that I don't respect him, etc.
Am I the one that is in the wrong? What should I do? I know I probably can't solve this with words but I also don't have the money to solve it with action either. This probably sounds like one big rant but I don't want to had such an odd relationship with my dad and just want us both to be happy and to respect each other.
Anesthesiologist or Neurosurgeon?
Ok, I'm thirteen at the moment and really excited about these two career paths. Frankly, I much more interested in becoming an anesthesiologist than a neurosurgeon, because I'm a little queasy with operations... I know both have pretty high salary range, and both have overwhelming work hours, and can be called in at any time (I know because my mother is friends with a woman who has a family with a anesthesiologist who lives in a mansion :o). But I want some insight from people themselves who have gotten into these jobs. Here are some questions...
1) What is the usual pay? I want to know how it varies.
2) What are usual work hours per week?
3) Is the work stressing?
4) Can they still raise a family while retaining a job?
5) Can they afford houses and college funds for their children?
6) Can they afford college funds for THEMSELVES? Do they usually have to get student loans?
7) How many years of college are required? Please list the college stages necessary.
8) Some additional information would be nice =)
I know of a young Polish boy in my area -once again, my mother has connections- who is already buying books and studying neurology, and he's been doing for a year... He's in eighth grade now. Are there some ways I can prepare? Should I do a lot of volunteer work at my local hospital?
Organisational commitment, work stress, job satifaction?
does anyone know where i can get standardised questionnaires.. eg. Meyer & Allens organisational commitment questionnaire? can anyone name specific websites or contact details? any help much appreaciated...
