Imagine by guest 22 May 2012 at 9:44am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Chris Guillebeau of ChrisGuillebeau.com. Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do. Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich. [...] The Little Guide to Contentedness by Leo 18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...] The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active by guest 15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...] Three Little Habits to Find Focus by Leo 10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...] How to Live Well by Leo 7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...] What I?ve Learned About Learning by Leo 3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...] The 39th Lesson by Leo 30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...] How to Fail at Habits by Leo 24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...] Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life by Leo 23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...] Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide by Leo 19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]
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SELF DEVELOPMENT:
Why do people ask advice?
A good answer would be because they are unsure of the answer themselves.
Why do people ask advice and then seemingly ignore it?
Your answer on this occasion may have been exactly what they needed to hear, but for some reason they do not act upon it. This could lead to your own frustration and a promise that you will not offer advice to that person again.
Whilst most people would recognise that as a fair and reasonable response, others would realise that the questioner is crying out for help, but on this occasion you are not the person with the right AUTHORITY to give the answer.
I personally studied 'Law' as part of a public administration course, which can help in resolving some questions, but, and I would be the first to admit it, I am often not the person with authority in this subject. If I suggested a possible solution to a legal problem, few would accept my observations; yet however their value would mirror that of a proper legal representative.
It is human nature that we get answers from the correct source.
In my youth I was able to strip a car engine down and repair and restore to its original condition. Yet if I suggested to a colleague that their engine needed a de-coke, they would politely accept my comments but approach a mechanic for a proper answer.
The suggestion here then is that; when you are all exhausted from trying to offer advice but getting nowhere, direct the individual concerned to the person with authority.
THE RIGHT AUTHORITY
In my philosophical youth, I was trying to impress my 'in-laws' (my wife's parents), more specifically my mother-in-law. She was searching, as they do, for my position/political stance on a certain topic. Incidentally she is the deputy head of a local school for 12 - 16 year olds.
I sat back and said I couldn't answer without all the facts. Nothing too strange there, but I sensed a need to speak out with some 'personal philosophy'. Perhaps a little too early in the day to be received with anticipation, my 'mother-in-law' sat back with a certain degree of apprehension.
I suggested that people are better making important decisions in a good/happy state of mind. If a decision is demanded at a moment you are stressed out, then you need to take a moment to clam down. Even to the point of meditating for five minutes. My mother-in-law was sceptical.
Precisely two weeks later (Sunday morning), my mother-in-law was reading her favourite Sunday morning newspaper. Guess what! A journalist had researched an article on meditation and how to calm our busy minds down. There was the 'authority', the same comment from 'my' humble lips meant nothing, now that the same instruction was in print, my mother-in-law was prepared to consider its values!!!
QUOTE: 'Convincing the doubter without substantiation from an AUTHORITY is like feeding a toddler a dishful of soup using a fork. Change the fork to a spoon.'
(Phil Booker)
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To Gretchen Carlson, more minority babies means more single mothers and more
19 May 2012 at 9:39pm
Single Mom Balancing Act
27 Mar 2012 at 11:34am
She's Speaking Real Talk: Single Mothers Need To See This!
Will i be alone for ever like she said?
Well a family member of mines ask why i keep rejecting these women that she keep introducing me to(im new to a state). I said no offense but the ones you keep introducing me to have children already. Then she goes what that got to do with it! I said im 22 i rather date someone who doesn't have kids,i dont have any so why is it bad for me to reject someone who does.
She said wow you will be single for the rest of your life because almost all women here in this state have kids even from the start of 18 so at 22 i dont know where you will fond a woman that doesn't have kids you may as well look for a 16 or 17yr old.
Then goes everyone not perfect we all make mistakes you're not any better than them.I said its not about being better than them or judging them i just dont care to date a single mother a young one at that. Then she said if you find one here that has no kids i would gladly shake her hand because i dont know any women here that stayed child free here that would be a miracle.
Also i would like to add that i dont tell her to introduce me to woman i guess she just thinks its ok to since im new around.
my daughter is getting sooooooo chubby?
my 11 year old daughter(12 in july) has gotten realy chubby and i meen chubby. she is 4 ft 10 inch
and weighs 128lbs. she came up to me yestrday and said that she needed new jeans cause she popped a button of one pair and bust the other ones waistband. i came in to her room the other day while she was trying to pull her little black skirt on( which not a long time ago used to fit) and you could hear the hem splitting and she shamefully had like 9 fat rolls. she wont go outside and when she does she sits on the trampoline and reads. i found out that she bys donuts and cakes and chips from the bakers. i am so angry at myself for not realising. i am a single mother( my husband died a few years ago) so i was wondering if it could be comfort eating. pleaze help.
I feel like a single mother best answer?
Please tell me if I'm in the wrong here. I feel like life is living right by me, but I'm actually not living. I feel like I'm missing out on life. I stay home and take care of our two kids. My husband is gone a lot for work. A week here and there, sometimes weekends too. He left early today and has no idea when he will be home, he's working.
I feel like I'm always alone with our kids. When he is home, he's sleeping or watching tv. Or in a bad mood because he doesn't want to deal with our kids. He doesn't give me money, he acts like what little I make from watching another child, I should give to him.
I was supposed to have dental surgery, he gave me 3 grand for it. Well our daughter had medical bills that needed paid, so I paid those bills. I didn't get the surgery. He never offers to give me money. He just complains, about how he pays the bills. How he wants a nest age. I buy all food and everything the kids need.
Anyways I'm sick of this life. He complains about if I want to go out to eat or do anything, to get out of the house. But yet his friend was in town 2 weeks and he was gone a lot and spending money while he was out.
I feel like im being used, and taken advantage of. It's like I'm his personal baby sitter, so he can do what he wants with his life. I don't mind caring for our kids, I love them. Any advice for me please?
