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The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
How to Tackle Your Clutter
by Leo
6 Jan 2012 at 12:19pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. So you’ve been putting off tackling your clutter for months, maybe even years. Papers pile up on a counter, shelves are crammed full of books and magazines and other things, closets are stuffed to the point of spillage, clothes pile up on the floor or furniture, boxes and furniture and [...]
How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal)
by guest
5 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. I did [...]


Self Improvement

Here is your Friday STORY on: HAPPINESS: When everything is going right, you're happy. Whilst that sentence is fine imagine if you changed the wording slightly; 'When I stick with integrity, use my wisdom and adhere to the fundamental morals of life, I'm happy'. The second sentence has a definite implication that you've created the happiness, rather than be amongst it by some fluke or other. When you get through a day without any major catastrophes, problems or hiccups; you need to pat yourself on the back, as more than likely you were personally responsible. Everyone who reads this will know that when life is sweet and rosy they laugh more. Remember that YOU are the controller of sweet and rosy. If you let go of the reigns, the discipline is lost and the likelihood of impending torment is certain. Today's story is about one man's belief of discipline. We may smile at his necessity to maintain his standards, but we also know that using this discipline is a sure fire way of reaching a contented state of mind. COACH JOHN WOODEN - "A Paragon Rising above the Madness" On Tuesday the best man I know will do what he always does on the 21st of the month. He'll sit down and pen a love letter to his best girl. He'll say how much he misses her and loves her and can't wait to see her again. Then he'll fold it once, slide it in a little envelope and walk into his bedroom. He'll go to the stack of love letters sitting there on her pillow, untie the yellow ribbon, place the new one on top and tie the ribbon again. The stack will be 180 letters high then, because Tuesday is 15 years to the day since Nellie, his beloved wife of 53 years, died. In her memory, he sleeps only on his half of the bed, only on his pillow, only on top of the sheets, never between; with just the old bedspread they shared to keep him warm. There's never been a finer man in American sports than John Wooden, or a finer coach. He won 10 NCAA basketball championships at UCLA (7 in a row), the last in 1975. Nobody has ever come within six of him. He won 88 straight games between Jan. 30, 1971, and Jan. 17, 1974. Nobody has come within 42 since. So, sometimes, when the Madness of March gets to be too much -- too many players trying to make Sports Centre, too few players trying to make assists, too many coaches trying to be homeys, too few coaches willing to be mentors, too many freshmen with out-of-wedlock kids, too few freshmen who will stay in school long enough to become men -- I like to go see Coach Wooden. I visit him in his little condo in Encino, 20 minutes northwest of L.A., and hear him say things like "Gracious sakes alive!" and tell stories about teaching "Lewis" the hook shot. Lewis Alcindor, that is. Kareem Abdul-Jabbar. There has never been another coach like Wooden, quiet as an April snow and square as a game of checkers; loyal to one woman, one school, and one way; walking around campus in his sensible shoes and Jimmy Stewart morals. He'd spend a half hour the first day of practice teaching his men how to put on a sock. "Wrinkles can lead to blisters, " he'd warn. These huge players would sneak looks at one another and roll their eyes. Eventually, they'd do it right. "Good, " he'd say. "And now for the other foot." Of the 180 players who played for him, Wooden knows the whereabouts of 172. Of course, it's not hard when most of them call, checking on his health, secretly hoping to hear some of his simple life lessons so that they can write them on the lunch bags of their kids, who will roll their eyes. "Discipline yourself, and others won't need to, " Coach would say. "Never lie, never cheat, never steal, " Coach would say. "Earn the right to be proud and confident." You played for him, you played by his rules: Never score without acknowledging a team-mate. One word of profanity and you're done for the day. Treat your opponent with respect. He believed in hopelessly out-of-date stuff that never did anything but win championships. No dribbling behind the back or through the legs. "There's no need, " he'd say. No UCLA basketball number was retired under his watch. "What about the fellows who wore that number before? Didn't they contribute to the team?" he'd say. No long hair, no facial hair. "They take too long to dry, and you could catch cold leaving the gym, " he'd say. That one drove his players bonkers. One day, All-America centre Bill Walton showed up with a full beard. "It's my right, " he insisted. Wooden asked if he believed that strongly. Walton said he did. "That's good, Bill, " Coach said. "I admire people who have strong beliefs and stick by them, I really do. We're going to miss you." Walton shaved it right then and there. Now Walton calls once a week to tell Coach he loves him. It's always too soon when you have to leave the condo and go back out into the real world, where the rules are so much greyer and the teams so much worse. As Wooden shows you to the door, you take one last look around. The framed report cards of the great-grandkids. The boxes of jelly beans peeking out from under the favourite wooden chair and the dozens of pictures of Nellie. He's almost 90 now, you think. A little more hunched over than last time and steps a little smaller. You hope it's not the last time you see him. He smiles. "I'm not afraid to die, " he says. "Death is my only chance to be with her again." Problem is, we still need him here Side Note: John R. Wooden was a three time All American basketball player, including college player of the year his senior season at Purdue. He is the only person to be inducted into both the Players' and Coaches' Halls of Fame. Through his word and deed, he taught people how to be successful. Coach Wooden, and his record, remain the standard by which EXCELLENCE is measured. As a youngster, watching his teams win it all, year after year, I became a huge fan of John Wooden... and an even bigger fan after reading about his philosophy, his teachings, his quotes (see below) and his life. Now, living in Athens, Georgia (home of the UGA Bulldogs), I now a huge fan of UGA's basketball coach, Jim Harrick, who played under Coach Wooden at UCLA (Coach Harrick also won the NCAA Championship as head coach of UCLA in 1995 - the first since Wooden's years there). On an SEC teleconference call, Coach Harrick was asked "what's the key to winning the close games that could go either way in the waning seconds." He said, "I asked that very same question to John Wooden. He pondered for a long time, and then said, 'Jim, I never expected to be in that situation.''' Coach Wooden, like Paul "Bear" Bryant in football, had the best prepared teams in the country, year after year, and won it all year after year. He built his dynasty with this philosophy: "Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming." (Rick Reilly, Sports Illustrated) QUOTES: "Consideration for others brings many things." "You have success within. It's up to you to bring it out." "Never mistake activity for achievement." "Be quick, but don't be in a hurry" "Bad times can make you bitter or better." "Bad times can make you bitter or better." "Talent is God-given; be humble. Fame is man-given; be grateful. Conceit is self-given; be careful."


Books I read and subconscious?
I was thinking. From the books I read I sometimes get to thinking after I read it that what I learned I already knew and it was just common sense. Or maybe I thought that it was common sense coincidentally after reading it when in reality I actually did learn something new. And sometimes I think years after reading any self improvement books or any book in particular that it faded away in memory which it does and I no longer think nothing of it. Or do I actually use the things I learned in those books without knowing and it's coming from my subconscious mind of the things I learned in those books. These are thoughts I have and just curious. What do you guys think?

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would you date or marry a poor man?
would possibly all that lack of financial aptitude lead you to go out and try to make it for yourself..and in the mean time he is sexing other people? this is kind of a response to someones question saying the had done all this self improvement to satisfy their partiener, and the guy cheated. can a really independant lady ever find satisfaction in love..maybe she is a narcissist? maybe he dont like her hair color.. or he is bored.. but he shoud have been completely honest. i think it may be that he does go looking for what someone would give away, but then be looking for the same qualities in others. i dont know if narcissistc females make good partners.

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Tips on image, self improvement, how to be pretty basically?
At the moment, i'm a 16 year old female with very pale skin, size 8uk, us size 4(?), decent figure but longing for thinner thighs and a flatter stomach. Prone to acne. It's in my genes so not much i can do. Long, out of control, curly red hair. Braces, six months left. And i just detest my appearance lately. It's not like i'm considered ugly, you know, i have that whole, blue eyes, nice bone structure, strikingly artistic and unusual look about me or something. According to other people. But i don't like it myself. My hair, which i dye a winey shade of red similar to what rihanna used to have going on, and trim it because i like my hair long. Overgrown side fringe. I don't like straightening it as it makes it dry and horrid, so i just let it go curly. Only lately, it's been refusing to do that. I guess for a long time now i've been comparing myself to how other girls look and wishing that i could be like that. Trying to exercise, thinking, maybe if i'm a dress size smaller i'll finally have a boyfriend or just someone who has an interest. My makeup, no matter how much i blend, always looks too thick and i just don't feel good. I'm tired of not being looked upon as pretty, disregarded and ignored. Yes, this sounds extremely shallow and despite what you may think, i am, somewhat intelligent and education is important to me, but you know, what's good grades if you're this horrible self conscious thing for your entire life? I want to feel good about myself. :(

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