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If you have all the academic skills in the world you may never be prepared for some situations that life throws at us.
I have witnessed students in my fair city, of who could well embarrass most with their academic skills, but they seem to lack the quality of common sense. Common sense comes from experience of life. Eventually it becomes second nature to respond to difficulties with a confident and understanding attitude.
We all know someone with this frailty. Too much knowledge, but not enough common sense, they seem to lack this important understanding. Why? It is because they don't realise that knowledge, although an important key, if not used or applied properly is wasted.
Good instinct and intuition are as a result of a good application of common sense. See in this next story, how well a young child knows what to do from instinct.
BIG BROTHER'S WATCHIN
The little Downs' syndrome girl, a teenager the size of a ten year old, made her way through the McDonald's restaurant to the back and turned toward the restroom. After stopping and looking closely at the word on the door to make absolutely certain she was entering the appropriate one, she walked in.
This was a happy evening for her. She and her family had just come from the roller rink with a group of friends from her church, and although trying to stay in an upright position while skating had been more work than fun for her, she knew now that it was certainly well worth the effort: was there, after all, any place in the world offering greater rewards than McDonald's?
Her younger but bigger brother sat quietly, looking after her and noticed what she, thankfully, had not. A group of four teenagers, two couples, had taken an interest in the little girl from the moment they spotted her. Their eyes on her like magnets as she walked to the bathroom, they sniggered and whispered behind their hands, one even openly laughing, another pointing.
Her brother watched them for a minute or so, then stood slowly, almost wearily, and walked casually across the restaurant to the booth where the merry couples were sitting.
The two guys paled slightly, and the girls looked a little alarmed as this total stranger, a year or two their junior, placed his hands boldly on their table, leaning down slightly toward them. He, clearly in their space, and they, most definitely out of their comfort zones, studied each other.
The stoic intruder stood up straight after several seconds and motioned with one hand for one of the couples to scoot over. Clearly, he intended to sit right down next to them. Somewhat in shock, and thrown completely off-guard, they made space for him and he lowered himself and sat, hunched slightly forward, his forearms resting on the table.
When the silent tension reached ear-splitting proportions, the stranger spoke to this now-serious party of four. Quietly, he informed them, "I was watching you making fun of my sister." All four faces before him were now pale, and the boys stumbled over their words in their rush to defend themselves.
"Who? Your sister? Where?" "We weren't making fun of anyone!" "Oh, that was your sister? We weren't making fun of her!" "We would never make fun of someone like that!"
But he told them again, "I watched you."
They babbled whatever came to their minds, knowing they had been caught red-handed and maybe, just maybe, even realizing that they had been not only rude, but cruel to boot. Maybe they even got a little glimpse of the love this fifth wheel had for his sister, and an inkling of the emotions he was dealing with.
The brother appeared not to be listening to their denials as he turned and watched his sister head back to where she had been sitting with the church group. Each of the four looked away, making sure they looked absolutely anywhere besides at that little girl.
Somehow, on her return trip from the restroom, not one of them found her the least bit amusing. Her brother watched her sit down with the others, then he slid out of the booth and stood. As he turned to walk away, one of the boys tried for one last line of defence: "Hey, we would not make fun of her. We feel sorry for people like that!"
The little girl's defender stopped and turned back to their table, and placing the palms of his hands again on its surface, and leaning in close to his new acquaintances, he said hoarsely, "And I feel sorry for people like YOU." Then he turned and walked away. And, somehow, he suddenly blended right in with the Happy Meal atmosphere as he took his place next to his little sister. Just as if he were your average, basic McDonald's customer. And not a hero at all.
(By Alison)
Alison's story has appeared in Stories for the Teen's Heart, under the title "Brotherly Love." She also has a story in "Chicken Soup for the Grandparent's Soul." This one is called "Home Run."
QUOTE: 'Having ability and intelligence is not the key. It's recognising that ability, confessing it, appreciating it, developing it, and then using it.'
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is this a job offer or a kind gesture?
recently at my job i as talking to one of my regular customers who comes in and plays the lottery. When we talked I told her of my interest in working with people who have been abused because of my own personal experiences. I also told her that i was going to school for psychology. Well she told me that she worked for a domestic abuse organization and if i wanted i could come to her job for a tour. well of course i was so happy and excited and i actually thought that she was a worker there and that she was going to let me meet her supervisor and co workers but when she gave me her business card that's when i i found out she is the director! could i take this as a kind gesture on her part or is should i think that this is a a potential job offer? thanks for your input:)
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Is this Pisces man really into me?
So I went to Texas 3 weeks ago and met this guy. I am 23 and he is 20. He was a bouncer at one of the bars I went to, and I thought it'd be fun to take him home. We exchange numbers and he picks me up that night after he gets off. We end up hanging out until 5pm the next day, and same thing the next day after he got off work. THIS WAS SUPPOSE TO BE A ONE NIGHT STAND TYPE OF DEAL. After he dropped me off he would send me texts like please don't go back to St.Louis, I've never felt this way about someone, I'm never like this with girls, etc... He is a VERY good looking guy. We would lay in bed and he would just stare at me, cuddle me, run his fingers through my hair, and tell me how perfect I was... He wanted me to hear his favorite bands, ect. It was very intense. Well the night before I left we were suppose to hang out one last time and he texted me a novel basically telling me he couldn't tell me goodbye yada yada. I just responded with "well you should have told me sooner but it's okay I'm going back to STL now... I had a great time." Well he decided he wanted to still talk to me (this is all him asking for this) and a week later I told him my plans to move to Texas (I live in STL). He was SO excited, and we have continued to text everyday besides one or two days. We've talked on the phone a few times, but he seems somewhat shy on the phone. Plus, I don't mind texting bc I'm a busy person. He sends me the most adorable things constantly and says as soon as I move he wants me to be his girlfriend, and he misses me, he wants to take good care of me, I'm perfect, he devoted a song to me, ect. We also had GREAT GREAT GREAT sex about 20 times in two days, and he claims I'm the best he's ever had. We both seem like very sexual beings. lol He's a pisces (not that I really think that matters too much, but in some ways I do). I recently went through a divorce and was with my husband since 14... he was a total fuck up and treated me badly so I'm having some trust issues. I have been my sweet self with this guy but idk if I should trust it... Should I just take a risk and go for it? I am a born house wife, and the "mother" type which he seems to LOVE. There is no reason for this guy to still talk to me, he could have easily walked away the next day and I wouldn't have cared... I just wanted to try a one night stand! FAIL!!! lol I could see myself really liking this guy, and he seems very mature for his age. There has been no issues with age at all thus far. Advice?? Thanks
Also, I am a Leo but I don't have all the characteristics of a leo. I am very laid back, and understanding. I have a temper but it takes a lot for it to come out. I'm not very jealous due to all the nonsense my ex-husband put me through... If they want to cheat they'll cheat anyway is my outlook. I'm a typical housewife I have a 4 1/2 year old daughter (which he doesn't mind at all), I'm going to school for psychology, and I have my head on straight. I'm definitely what people see as a "strong" woman. I definitely have a wild side, and am very sexual in nature but I do not sleep around AT ALL. I enjoy my space, and having my own life separate from my significant other.
So what do y'all think???
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My boyfriend's mom is a hoarder and I don't know how to help!?
I have been living with my boyfriend for the past year. When we first moved in together his mother was living with her fiance at the time. She started having second thoughts and broke off the engagement which meant, welcome home mom! From the day she moved back home the house has been in shambles. She has more excuses then a dictionary has words as to WHY the house hasn't gotten cleaned. Both her son and I have gone attempted to help her with cleaning but she doesn't want to throw anything away! She says, "this is my house, I'll do what I want" or "you know, I'm not ready I'm just not ready to throw this out." (Her parents owned two homes and when they passed away they had brought all the "stuff" from one house into a much smaller house)
We have 3 dogs and she just doesn't care about anything. The dogs will mess on the carpet and she will put a paper towel over it and leave it. The paper towel will sit there for WEEKS.
We all have a part in the mess and two of us are willing to help but we just can't seem to get through to her.
Her hoarding is starting to effect our relationship. I can not live in the conditions I am in (although not extreme, it just keeps getting worse).
Her daily routine consists of: waking up, going to work 8:30-4:30, coming home (sometimes going to clean a "friends" house (he is blind and needs assistance), playing on her computer, smoking about 20 cigarettes, maybe making dinner, playing more on the computer, watching TV and going to bed That is Monday - Friday!
If I had to analyze her I would say the following:
She has always had to care for other people and never really had time for herself, therefore now that she has the time she doesn't know how to. She would rather sit on a computer and play this ONE game then get organized. She has no motivation. She is lonely, always used to doing things on her own. and she may just be a little depressed.
I went to school for Psychology so I do have a slight background in disorders like this, however, I need some advice. What should I do? How can I help without crossing a line?
I want her to be healthy. I want her to see there is a better end to all of this. Her smoking habit worries me because I know my bf and I will end up getting married and I do not want my child around her like this. We have told her this and she doesn't care, she says, "yea well I have a few years before all that" She is oblivious to the world around her and that time does not stand still because she wants it to. We had a mini fight today in which I told her she needs to clean and she said "I have been..." I asked where and she said the kitchen. I told her the kitchen was the CLEANEST ROOM IN THE HOUSE and she said well that is where all the important stuff is. Her "important stuff" like bills and everything are in piles on the kitchen table....the kitchen table that she lets her little rat dog up on to eat!!!! If they were THAT important the dog would NOT be on the table EVER. It is so gross. Please someone help!
1. Not the same boyfriend (we have only been together for a year)
2. While it is her house, it is UNHEALTHY for her. It's a fire hazard.
3. Hoarding RESEMBLES OCD and may have some attributes that are similar. I am not "qualified" to make a diagnosis. AND....OCD is a disorder - obsessive compulsive disorder.
4. My boyfriend can't stand it either, but at the current moment, neither of us have the finances to move out. He is relatively clean... for a guy.
5. Already tried the whole, come one lets clean up so we can put a nice tree up and decorations ....yea still got me no where lol.
I 100% totally agree, it is her house and she can do what she wants, but the one thing I left out is she'll go on a rampage about how she needs to get this house cleaned.
And while you can't force someone to get help, especially when they don't see they have a problem. I want to somehow present it to her and leave it on the table for when she finally sees it and
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