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The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
How to Tackle Your Clutter
by Leo
6 Jan 2012 at 12:19pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. So you’ve been putting off tackling your clutter for months, maybe even years. Papers pile up on a counter, shelves are crammed full of books and magazines and other things, closets are stuffed to the point of spillage, clothes pile up on the floor or furniture, boxes and furniture and [...]
How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal)
by guest
5 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. I did [...]


Relationship

Here is your Monday STORY on: LOVE: Whilst LOVE is a beautiful component of life it also can be a hindrance. When a close friend passes away that immediate love is lost and a subsequent depression can set in if we allow it. The whole subject of death is a vast area for discussion, but today we look at one way we can overcome this feeling of depression. The simple answer is to love. We need to both love the memory of the person who has passed away and we need to offer the intensity of love we had to other people. This of course is easy to say but not so easy to do. Having taken the subject to an extreme we must also realise that any form of sadness or depression can be overcome with love. If we can focus onto another, the intensity of which we know we can do, then the sense and mood will change. You cannot remain sad for long when you are offering love. It would be true to say, following those two paragraphs, that to encourage happiness you must also encourage love. Today's story illustrates a family's need to see when love will bring another family out from sadness. THE BIG RED BOX February came and as usual, depression set in. With holidays behind her, she could no longer look forward to the parade of friends and relatives that helped her chase away the loneliness. The gloomy, grey mornings only made it worse. She hated Februarys. She remembered how much she used to cherish Valentine's Day, the way he began a week ahead of time, with a different gift each day, building to a huge bouquet of flowers and some special, intimate present that seemed so well thought-out. He always surprised her somehow. She loved that about him. After Jim passed away, her life force seemed to seep out of her like a huge balloon with a slow leak, a little more each day. Deflated, she struggled to get up, pull herself together and function with any sense of normalcy. "Maybe today will be better, " she tried to convince herself. The box shocked her. She knew she hadn't ordered anything because she couldn't afford it. When she first saw the UPS man at her door half hidden by an enormous cardboard thing, she thought for sure that he had made a mistake. "Sign here, " the man said. "Where would you like me to put this?" Flustered, she pointed to the chair in the hallway, the one where Jim always dropped his coat. She stood in the foyer staring at the box, afraid to touch it. No return address, no indication of where it came from. "Should I open it?" she questioned, uncertain and timid. "Why am I acting so ridiculous?" she fussed at herself. She walked to the kitchen, picked up a knife and returned, cut the tape that held the package together and lifted the flaps. Underneath the white Styrofoam peanuts, she could see a vivid red. "What's that?" she wondered and began to dig. Despite herself, she could feel her adrenalin surge. She let the peanuts fall to the ground. There, inside the box, sat another one, a bright cherry colour, with a pink bow that held a single silk rose. Her heartbeat quickened and her face flushed. She reached in and removed the mystery, set it on the neighbouring table. "Who sent this? What is it?" Suddenly, she chuckled. She saw her own smile in the mirror above the counter and barely recognized it. It had been so long. Her excitement took over. She ripped off the ribbon, kept the rose in one hand and pulled off the top. A purple boa wrapped around matching slippers rested on top of a satiny camisole of the same colour. "My favourite!" she squealed. She nestled the boa around her neck and picked up the card with a huge heart on the front. With much trepidation, she opened it and felt her eyes mist. She cried her way through the words. "Mom, I love you so much. Will you be my Valentine? Jim, Jnr." Who might you reach out to next Valentine's Day who might otherwise be alone? Could you find it within yourself to do it? Thanks for your heart. (Ridgely Goldsborough) QUOTE: "Love is a union with somebody, or something, outside oneself, under the condition of retaining the separateness and integrity of one's self. (Erich Fromm)


My bf is 18 and I'm 15?
We really love each other.And we are not having sex or kissing or we are both conservative and we are both religious.I know a lot of people will judge me but I don't care.I just want to know if our relationship is illegal and pls explain.thanks in advance I love him so much :( we are not doing anything wrong.why is it illegal? :(

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Middle School relationships?
Why are 11-13 year old middle school kids so eager to start "dating"? They want it to be serious as well. As if they don't have to ask their parents for rides, or pay for everything. What's the point in junior high relationships? None of them last very long anyway, and a lot of them are for social status, because kids seem to think it's "cool" to have a girlfriend.

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How do i deal with my boyfriend withdrawal? He keeps pushing me away when hes stress!?
ive migrated abt 8 months so im in a longdistance relationship and my bf have been goin thru some rough patches in life..wrk issues.hes no longer wrking.. family issues.. his family nor mine approve of our relationship due to us being different races..and some other minor issues..when i was back home he always used to push away a bit..but i was there to talk to him n help snap him out when hes really stress..sometimes i jus give him some space..and he always come back..when his head is cleared..in a few hours..now we are thousands of miles away things have changed..im not there.. now he doesnt have a few hrs anymore but a day or two.i wouldnt hear from him..he always comes back..but jus with a sorry abt yesterday and continue like nothing happened..and when i push a bit to find out whats going on he gets so mad..as if i dont need to know anything..yes i understand its his issues and he wants to deal wit it himself..but am i wrong to feel hurt..and sad that he can dissappear when he chooses and then come back n expect everytin to be ok? this haven't happened once or twice..its been going on for the past 3 months almost every week or 2...i have my own issuess too n i need his support too.. i have my family issues to deal with..i have heath issues..i try not to burden him with mine cos i know hes going thru alot..but it is really wearing me out..i need him..but needs me too..but in a weird way according to him..he needs me to be there..but at the same time not to be there..meaning i must be there when he needs me n i shouldnt go after him...when i talk to him..we always end up fighting,, and he always tells me that he needs my support..he expect me to be more understanding..is there sometin im not doing? i just dont know how to deal with it..sometimes he open up to me and sometimes he just keep away..even his friends said hes locking himself up too much..he jus expect me to accept what he does..i cant..is that wrong? i just cannot allow him to push me away..and then pretend it never happen n continue..its happening too much..this is the 3rd month and its getting worst..so frustrated and exhausted.... Any advice would be great...

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5 Feb 2012 at 12:00am  After millenniums in which mythical beings, allegories and grand philosophical ideas were staples of Western art, the past century saw the triumph of the mundane. Collages were made with newspapers, train tickets and cheap wallpaper. Toilets and teacups entered the sculptural canon, and Pop artists painted advertisements and comic books. “...

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