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The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
How to Tackle Your Clutter
by Leo
6 Jan 2012 at 12:19pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. So you’ve been putting off tackling your clutter for months, maybe even years. Papers pile up on a counter, shelves are crammed full of books and magazines and other things, closets are stuffed to the point of spillage, clothes pile up on the floor or furniture, boxes and furniture and [...]
How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal)
by guest
5 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. I did [...]


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Here is your Tuesday STORY on: SELF DEVELOPMENT: Can we ever be sure of making the right decision? Whenever one is asked to improve oneself, you would be perfectly correct in assuming that any knowledge gained, would also extend your skill and judgement in making decisions. QUOTE: 'If you motivate an idiot with enthusiasm, all you get is a motivated idiot. You need to educate first.' (Jim Rohn) To self develop in any manner whatsoever we must therefore be aware that education is a much needed ingredient. We must also be aware that there are dozens of opportunities each day to advance our knowledge, but often they simply pass us by. Instead of puffing and panting and being troubled by your daily events we need to see our day as invigorating and challenging. If we remain positive there is little that would stop our stride. Yet on the other hand if we become negative our 'today' follows the same pattern as yesterday. So the reality to study is that if we don't continually self develop; each day will be the same. Perhaps a few different situations along the way but we fall back into the same old thought pattern that never resolves anything. We must remember therefore to expect a new challenge each and every day, wait in anticipation and be invigorated by its attendance. In being positive we SEE the opportunities arise. Today's story illustrates an important event that helped educate. From this knowledge a greater understanding of compassion; plus the importance of living in the NOW became tools that were never forgotten. DARYLE, I'VE GOT A BUNCH OF THEM They were in all different sizes, ranks and poses. They were even on different sides. They were miniature Revolutionary War soldiers made out of pewter. They were well-crafted and amazing things to see. They were given to me and I took them, without even mumbling a "much obliged." My older cousin, Daryle, had given them to me. Daryle was all dressed up in his army uniform. He looked even more impressive than the little soldiers. I didn't really want the little soldiers he offered me, but I took them. Daryle was older that I was and, as my elder, he deserved some respect. I was at that awkward age when it came to such things. I was too old to play with the small troops and too young to really appreciate them. The only material things I was interested in at that age were my baseball glove, my GE transistor radio with the earplugs and my dream car, that I would be much too young to drive, even if I could afford to buy it. My mother always told me that a person can never be too thankful. Even with that wonderful instruction, I had neglected to thank Daryle for the little soldiers. I wish my mother had taken them from me, along with my old comic books and baseball cards, and told me that she would give them back to me when I turned 30, in the hopes that I would have developed a brain by then. I had a Springfield single-shot .22 rifle. I wanted to practice with it. Daryle had shown me his marksmanship badge and I thought maybe I could earn myself one of those one day. He was plenty proud of that badge and told me that it had taken a lot of practice to get it. A decent target cost good money and I wasn't much of a hunter, so the little soldiers were the perfect prey for me. I set the little army men up on a rock pile and then began picking them off one-by-one with my Springfield rifle. The shooting did wonders for my marksmanship, but it didn't do the little pewter figures much good. Soon they were all gone -- shot to pieces -- yet another item tossed upon my life's scrap heap. Time passed. I had forgotten all about the tiny pewter soldiers until I received word that Daryle had been killed in Vietnam. The day he gave me the little soldiers was the last day I was to ever see Daryle alive. He left a wife and two young children. I wanted to bring Daryle back. I wanted to bring those little army men back. I never did thank Daryle for those little soldiers. Perhaps playing with the little soldiers is what made Daryle want to make the Army his career. I will never know. Since that day that I learned of Daryle's death, I try very hard to thank everyone for everything. Sometimes I forget, but I try real hard. Some years ago, I made a trip to Washington, DC, and visited the Vietnam Memorial. I was going to make rubbings of Daryle's name on the Memorial Wall, keeping one for myself and giving the rest to a number of my aunts. I was doing okay at this task until a little blond haired girl, wearing a white dress, put a flower at the base of a row of names. This little girl, probably the grandchild of one of the deceased, brought back a flood of memories for me. She caused me to give much thought to Daryle and some to those little Revolutionary War soldiers made out of pewter, as I stood by that Wall. I cried as I made a rubbing of Daryle's name from that Wall of names of people who died doing their duty in the jungles of a foreign land. It took me a number of attempts before I was able to finish making the rubbings. I never thanked Daryle for the little pewter soldiers. I never thanked Daryle for serving this country well, for being willing to die for all of us back home. For some reason, I know that whenever I thank a veteran, that Daryle hears me and understands that I am thanking him, too. (Al Batt) QUOTE: "If you don't have a vision for the future, then your future is threatened to be a repeat of the past.' (A. R. Bernard, Clergyman)


Was I wrong getting into a fight with her?
Since facebook is a place to show the good things happening in your life, I thought I would share gifts and flowers my husband bought me. Anyway a cousin I no longer speak to posted on her status "Women who expect a man to cater to their every need have a gold digger mentality" I thought she was indirectly aiming at me. I replied "Funny how a woman whose never had a long term relationship and sleeps around can give relationship advice" She then replied "The truth always comes to light" I then told her instead of ranting on facebook she should use her time to find a job and get off the welfare system. She said welfare owes her because she worked 10 yrs ago and is therefore not ahamed to be on welfare. She continued to write stuff at me, but I ignored it. Truthfully, I'm even sorry I ever replied to her because I'm too old for such. Everything I said to her was the truth. Do you think I was wrong for what I did? She quit facebook. I made my status private, so only she could see it. Besides this woman has done so many stuff that I can't possibly mention here alone. I do agree I never should have responded to her. She has proved to be untrustworthy and to be honest I do not want her in my life neither to the rest of my family. I do however, feel bad for stepping down to her level

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Relationship advice for someone without sense?!?
I really like this guy, and I actually think that we may end up going out. The only thing is that EVERYTIME I begin to go out with someone, I'll stop liking them. It's as if I only enjoy the chase, but I really want to go out with him. I just don't think it will work... How can I fix my situation??

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i really need relationship advice, someone please help me!?
ok long story short, my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. he was the perfect bf. i began to start and take advantage of the way he treated me and 'not appreciate it.' it caused us to fight and i wouldn't care because i knew he'd fix it. one day he got fed up with it and ended things. i feel like sh!t about it and of course tried the begging and pleading. didn't work. it's true, you don't appreciate what you have till it's gone, biggest life lesson learned! anyway, every time we'd talk, we'd just fight.. or it got the the point where he just ignored me. i couldn't respect the fact he wanted space and to be left alone when we broke up. finally i realized i do love him and that if i love him, i need to give that to him. so i told him it's time i stop being selfish and immature and do what he wants because he believes it's best. he replied and we talked. he told me that night that he loved me still and everything i wanted to hear, but that we 'can't' be together because of his mom not approving i hurt him. i found it very hard to believe, but it's sadly true. he asked to be friends but i said face it, that's just a label and we wouldn't talk or hang out like friends do, and he said he couldn't because it'd hurt him too much to see me and talk, and he 'needs to move on' we haven't seen eachother since the break up and i feel like i just need to talk to him face to face to prove we can work things out and that i really do care about him. he refused because 'seeing me would hurt him more than ever' i told him that this wasn't to hang out, but to talk and it's important and he still refused. finally i said i'm done begging you. you come if you care, or you don't.. and he gave in. to he came over after he got home from school this past thursday and we talked. i told him i need to move on. i can't keep doing this if we truly can't be together. i cried. he cried. he held me, we both cried more. he told me he cares about me more than anything we just can't be together right now. he said he loved me and kissed me. he said if it wasn't for his mom, he'd be with me. it's just so much stress and he's afraid to lose their relationship. he's a huge mamma's boy, clearly but he's going to be 18 next month, he needs to realize he can't always please her. he told me he'd go home and talk to her that night. so i really thought it'd work out. he got home and about an hour later he told me he's sorry he just can't and it's done.. then he said 'i'll cya gabby' i knew begging and trying to convince him wouldn't work so i told him i hope everything works out and i said cyaa too. i texted his mom on sunday and apologized for everything that happened and so on, hoping she'd think differently of the situation, but i didn't get a response. i really needed to talk to him last night and he ignored me. i didn't understand why. his mom had called me today and told me it's time i move on and to leave him alone because he's just too upset all the time and he's not being able to focus in school. i told her with no disrespect but if it wasn't for her we'd be together and she disagrees's and she thinks that he doesn't care about me like he said, that he had nothing else to say and it's all his choice not to be with me and now i'm pretty much being left with no choice but to leave him alone. i feel so bad about everything and i just feel the need to be with him. i can't move on because i know he loves me and with that, i feel hope. someone please tell me what i can do to make things work out? or just good advice that doesn't say 'you need to move on' i'm hopelessly desperate ):

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