Preventing Sadness

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Imagine
by guest
22 May 2012 at 9:44am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Chris Guillebeau of ChrisGuillebeau.com. Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do. Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich. [...]
The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]

 

 

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Preventing Sadness

Here is your Tuesday STORY on: Where are you going to be in the near future? Wisdom rarely tries to equip you for your future, other than promotes the virtues of planning. However, the one important factor that has so many attributes is to get the period right NOW under control and everything that emanates from it will be good. So it would appear to follow that if you wanted a bright and successful future, all you need to do is to start getting the NOW under control. How you perceive the NOW is the plan for your future. Habit will take you where you've always been, break that habit and develop the NOW so your future improves. Today's story illustrates how we become blinkered in our approach. DO NOT ACT LIKE AN ELEPHANT! In India, elephants are used for manual labour. When an elephant is small and weighs approximately 200 pounds, it is securely tied with a heavy-duty rope. In between "jobs, " the elephant tries to break through its limitation. The calf whines and tugs and even tries to chew through the rope, but it is unable to break free. Finally, the elephant gives up its will. He accepts his circumstances. His spirit is broken. The elephant believes there is absolutely no chance to free himself and overcome his "limitation." This is recognized as a "defining moment." A defining moment is the exact moment one adopts/accepts a new belief that drastically alters their life. They accept this "new belief" as a "truth, " regardless if it is true or not. Because the brain accepts repetition of thought and deduction as "the truth, " the rope reigns sovereign not only in the calf's immediate environment, but in his mind as well. With this "belief" deeply embedded in the elephant's mind, his handler came up with an ingenious idea to permanently disempower him. He realized all that was needed was to tie the four-ton animal up with extremely small ropes and he would remain tied. You see in the elephant's mind, any size rope would keep him "securely confined." Do not act like an elephant. Size up and break through the confining ropes in your mind. When you're faced with change, change your perspective. When you're overwhelmed with something new; change your view. Use affirmations, to eradicate limitations and nothing will be impossible for you! (Fran Briggs) (Fran Briggs is the founder of the F. Briggs Group, Personal Growth Facilitators. She is the author of several books and over 300 articles including, "Set Yourself Up for Success!" Ms. Briggs is a "motivational speaker of the inspirational kind." She speaks to audiences of children and adults of all ages and backgrounds, with the aim of inspiring them to their respective levels of greatness.) QUOTE: "The best way to predict your future is to invent it.' (Alan Kay) [[ct]]: Preventing Sadness

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CWRU's support during war was crucial for Libyan students: Mohamed Baqar

15 May 2012 at 1:01am  In February 2011, things changed for Libyan students studying abroad, including in the United States. These students, including myself, suffered severe economic hardship as a direct result of the civil unrest in Libya. Luckily for those of us at Case Western Reserve University and some other universities in the United States, we were supported by our university leadership, and the U.S ...

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Mechanicsburg Borough Council's zoning decision elevates concern

13 May 2012 at 4:40pm  Disappointment. Anger. Sadness. Those were some of the words Mechanicsburg businesswoman Linda Willis used to describe her reaction to a decision by Borough Council to delay any consideration of changes in zoning to allow personal services businesses in a section of the borough?s downtown.

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Feeling Depressed, Please Help?
I'm sorry if this question ends up being long, but please read through it. So I am very good friends with this girl, frankly my best friend. I have had a crush on her since I was in 5th grade. I managed to keep it a secret, from her. My former friend that knew I liked her and agreed to leave her alone and go out with other people, went out with her, but broke up quickly after the girl (who shall be known as . . . Margo) found out what a jerk he is. Some time has passed, most of that drama is gone, but recently I heard from my best guy friend that she likes me back. Now I am a natural born pessimist, so I had a hard time believing that. But later I heard it from even more people. Like 10 people have all told me, directly or indirectly, that she likes me, so I think "yay, all is good with the world". One night on iChat I work up the courage to ask her out, but shortly before doing so I realized that ever since the incident with my former friend (call him Quentin) Margo has not been allowed to date, due to the fact that Quentin was a real jerk to her and really hurt her. (EMOTIONALLY). This got me down for the next couple of days. Incidentely, in those days was a party. I went and tried to look as happy as possible, but must not have. Lots of people asked me what was wrong, and I tried to shrug them off. That same night on iChat, Margo asked me what was wrong, and I said something like "Nothing, I'm fine. How bout you?" that is when Margo said that for some reason when I am sad it makes her sad. This is what really sucks. I want her to be happy, whether she is with me or someone else, but if she sees me as being sad, then she will be sad. Lately, it has been more and more obvious that she likes me, and more and more obvious that I like her. I can't ask her out because of the incident with Quentin, and that makes me sad. I can't be sad around her because then she will be sad, which will make me sad. Homework and my parents (divorced) have been getting me down,along with all this. I feel like I am under enormous stress. Like my lungs are collapsing at the same time my heart is exploding. While that happens I have to keep a strait face to prevent sadness with Margo. I really just can't hurt her but it hurts me to keep those feelings in. She is going to be leaving the school next year as well so I have to do something soon but I feel almost like it's hopeless because of all the stuff I just said Please Help!!!!!!!!

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Feeling Depressed, Please Help?
I'm sorry if this question ends up being long, but please read through it. I know I posted this yesterday, but only one person answered. So I am very good friends with this girl, frankly my best friend. I have had a crush on her since I was in 5th grade. I managed to keep it a secret, from her. My former friend that knew I liked her and agreed to leave her alone and go out with other people, went out with her, but broke up quickly after the girl (who shall be known as . . . Margo) found out what a jerk he is. Some time has passed, most of that drama is gone, but recently I heard from my best guy friend that she likes me back. Now I am a natural born pessimist, so I had a hard time believing that. But later I heard it from even more people. Like 10 people have all told me, directly or indirectly, that she likes me, so I think "ya, all is good with the world". One night on iChat I work up the courage to ask her out, but shortly before doing so I realized that ever since the incident with my former friend (call him Quentin) Margo has not been allowed to date, due to the fact that Quentin was a real jerk to her and really hurt her. (EMOTIONALLY). This got me down for the next couple of days. Incidentally, in those days was a party. I went and tried to look as happy as possible, but must not have. Lots of people asked me what was wrong, and I tried to shrug them off. That same night on iChat, Margo asked me what was wrong, and I said something like "Nothing, I'm fine. How bout you?" that is when Margo said that for some reason when I am sad it makes her sad. This is what really sucks. I want her to be happy, whether she is with me or someone else, but if she sees me as being sad, then she will be sad. Lately, it has been more and more obvious that she likes me, and more and more obvious that I like her. I can't ask her out because of the incident with Quentin, and that makes me sad. I can't be sad around her because then she will be sad, which will make me sad. Homework and my parents (divorced) have been getting me down,along with all this. I feel like I am under enormous stress. Like my lungs are collapsing at the same time my heart is exploding. While that happens I have to keep a strait face to prevent sadness with Margo. I really just can't hurt her but it hurts me to keep those feelings in. She is going to be leaving the school next year as well so I have to do something soon but I feel almost like it's hopeless because of all the stuff I just said Please Help!!!!!!!!

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