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Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
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31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
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27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
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23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
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17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
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13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
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11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
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9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
How to Tackle Your Clutter
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6 Jan 2012 at 12:19pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. So you’ve been putting off tackling your clutter for months, maybe even years. Papers pile up on a counter, shelves are crammed full of books and magazines and other things, closets are stuffed to the point of spillage, clothes pile up on the floor or furniture, boxes and furniture and [...]
How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal)
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5 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. I did [...]
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Midlife Crisis

Here is your Sunday STORY on: THE LOVE OF WISDOM: Frequently things happen in our life that we have little control over, yet must learn to adapt to change. There is little that is anything more certain than change. It will happen every day. In our love of wisdom it would seem appropriate to grasp certain eventualities, come to terms with them and be prepared for their effect. Sometimes we are dealt with a bad hand and expected to come out on top. We need to practice being positive and turning an initial negative situation into something more optimistic. Today's story has a little of this thread of positive ness amongst its plot, but the miracle we witness from the effort is not financial but the emotion of needing to help; when those more fortunate see a NEED, and see an individual trying to overcome a battle, generosity will often spill from their soul. SIX HUNGRY BABIES In September 1960 I woke up one morning with six hungry babies and just 75 cents in my pocket. Their father was gone. The boys ranged from three months to seven years; their sister was two. Their Dad had never been much more than a presence they feared. Whenever they heard his tires crunch on the gravel driveway they would scramble to hide under their beds. He did manage to leave $15 a week to buy groceries. Now that he had decided to leave, there would be no more beatings, but no food either. If there was a welfare system in effect in southern Indiana at that time, I certainly knew nothing about it. I scrubbed the kids until they looked brand new and then put on my best homemade dress. I loaded them into the rusty old 51 Chevy and drove off to find a job. The seven of us went to every factory, store, and restaurant in our small town. No luck. The kids stayed crammed into the car and tried to be quiet while I tried to convince whoever would listen that I was willing to learn or do anything. I had to have a job. Still no luck. The last place we went to, just a few miles out of town, was an old Root Beer Barrel drive-in that had been converted to a truck stop. It was called the Big Wheel. An old lady named Granny owned the place and she peeked out of the window from time to time at all those kids. She needed someone on the graveyard shift; 11 at night until seven in the morning. She paid 65 cents an hour, and I could start that night. I raced home and called the teenager down the street that baby-sat for people. I bargained with her to come and sleep on my sofa for a dollar a night. She could arrive with her pyjamas on and the kids would already be asleep. This seemed like a good arrangement to her, so we made a deal. That night when the little ones and I knelt to say our prayers, we all thanked God for finding Mommy a job. And so I started at the Big Wheel. When I got home in the mornings I woke the baby-sitter up and sent her home with one dollar of my tip money -- fully half of what I averaged every night. As the weeks went by, heating bills added a strain to my meagre wage. The tires on the old Chevy had the consistency of penny balloons and began to leak. I had to fill them with air on the way to work and again every morning before I could go home. One bleak fall morning, I dragged myself to the car to go home and found four tires in the back seat. New tires. There was no note, no nothing, just those beautiful brand new tires. Had angels taken up residence in Indiana? I wondered. I made a deal with the owner of the local service station. In exchange for his mounting the new tires, I would clean up his office. I remember it took me a lot longer to scrub his floor than it did for him to do the tires. I was now working six nights instead of five, and it still wasn't enough. Christmas was coming, and I knew there would be no money for toys for the kids. I found a can of red paint and started repairing and painting some old toys. Then I hid them in the basement so there would be something for Santa to deliver on Christmas morning. Clothes were a worry too. I was sewing patches on top of patches on the boys pants, and soon they would be too far gone to repair. On Christmas Eve the usual customers were drinking coffee in the Big Wheel. These were the truckers, Les, Frank, and Jim, and a state trooper named Joe. A few musicians were hanging around after a gig at the Legion and were dropping nickels in the pinball machine. The regulars all just sat around and talked through the wee hours of the morning and then left to get home before the sun came up. When it was time for me to go home at seven o'clock on Christmas morning I hurried to the car. I was hoping the kids wouldn't wake up before I managed to get home and get the presents from the basement and place them under the tree. (We had cut down a small cedar tree by the side of the road down by the dump.) It was still dark and I couldn't see much, but there appeared to be some dark shadows in the car -- or was that just a trick of the night? Something certainly looked different, but it was hard to tell what. When I reached the car I peered warily into one of the side windows. Then my jaw dropped in amazement. My old battered Chevy was filled full to the top with boxes of all shapes and sizes. I quickly opened the driver's side door, scrambled inside and kneeled in the front facing the back seat. Reaching back, I pulled off the lid of the top box. Inside was whole case of little blue jeans, sizes 2-10! I looked inside another box: It was full of shirts to go with the jeans. Then I peeked inside some of the other boxes: There was candy, nuts, bananas, and bags of groceries. There was an enormous ham for baking, and canned vegetables and potatoes. There was pudding and Jell-O and cookies, pie filling and flour. There was a whole bag of laundry supplies and cleaning items, and there were five toy trucks and one beautiful little doll. As I drove back through empty streets as the sun slowly rose on the most amazing Christmas Day of my life, I was sobbing with gratitude. And I will never forget the joy on the faces of my little ones that precious morning. Yes, there were angels in Indiana that long-ago December . . . . and they all hung out at the Big Wheel truck stop. (Unknown Author) QUOTE: "A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug.' (Patricia Neal)


My mom keeps threatening divorce Suicidal thoughts- PLEASE HELP !?
Ever since I was a kid my mom and dad would fight like over petty things, but now that we live in a much larger house my mom brings up money or lack there of and it escalates into a huge yeling fiasco. Like today. It happens about once a month or once every two months, but today it happened because i brought up how my youngest of 4 bro's hasn't had communion like the rest of us and my mom ended up Throwing water all over my dad !!! It was crazy. She went ballistic. And my dad just went to his room. Also literally 99% of her friends are divorced. In addition she has this weird correspondence with an ex who she hasn't seen in 30 years, it's never inappropriate but it upsets my dad. Today she told me she wished I was never born so I called her a prostitute and as you can imagine that went over not so well...I felt awfully regretful after and apologized.. Anyways today after she threw water on my dad my dad got mad and called her a liar and "very bad" because she recently got a sub job and opened her own account which has 2,000 dollars (mostly my dad's money because she's only subbed like 4 times, and she won't let my dad on it because he "mismanages money"). Today she said she was taking my three brothers to our grandparents' 4 hours away, and so I blocked the driveway with my car and my dad said he would call the police because it was illegal. This made her even more angry and she began screaming and crying and said she was going to talk to a lawyer and is making my grandparents come down here to talk with one THIS thursday !!!!!! She has threatened divorce before but since my dad went through a really rough one himself he promised me he would never ever let it happen to us, but today he said "we'll see who gets them" them being my brothers and I (ages 16, 12, 10, 8). I am really scared because it's happened like twice before in my whole life but now it's getting more and more frequent. My dad loves her and does so much. We live in a million dollar home, have nice cars, go to priv. schools, and basically every modern commodity one could ask for. I know I fuel the fire sometimes like today and I regret it more than anything. I am afraid that because of my 16000 a year school + new bmw I am the reason there is less money and perhaps if I was subtracted from the equation things everyone would be happy again and love eachother. Is my mom (just turned 41) having a midlife crisis as my dad suggests or is menopause at fault for causing these dramatic episodes that are psychologically damaging and manifesting themselves in me physically and in my absurd recent suicidal thoughts. Has anyone experienced synonymous situations???? I will do anything to keep my parents together, ANYTHING.

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WHAT CAN I DO TO PREVENT THE D WORD !! please someone help me! My family is not a lost cause yet...?
Ever since I was a kid my mom and dad would fight like over petty things, but now that we live in a much larger house my mom brings up money or lack there of and it escalates into a huge yeling fiasco. Like today. It happens about once a month or once every two months, but today it happened because i brought up how my youngest of 4 bro's hasn't had communion like the rest of us and my mom ended up Throwing water all over my dad !!! It was crazy. She went ballistic. And my dad just went to his room. Also literally 99% of her friends are divorced. In addition she has this weird correspondence with an ex who she hasn't seen in 30 years, it's never inappropriate but it upsets my dad. Today she told me she wished I was never born so I called her a prostitute and as you can imagine that went over not so well...I felt awfully regretful after and apologized.. Anyways today after she threw water on my dad my dad got mad and called her a liar and "very bad" because she recently got a sub job and opened her own account which has 2,000 dollars (mostly my dad's money because she's only subbed like 4 times, and she won't let my dad on it because he "mismanages money"). Today she said she was taking my three brothers to our grandparents' 4 hours away, and so I blocked the driveway with my car and my dad said he would call the police because it was illegal. This made her even more angry and she began screaming and crying and said she was going to talk to a lawyer and is making my grandparents come down here to talk with one THIS thursday !!!!!! She has threatened divorce before but since my dad went through a really rough one himself he promised me he would never ever let it happen to us, but today he said "we'll see who gets them" them being my brothers and I (ages 16, 12, 10, 8). I am really scared because it's happened like twice before in my whole life but now it's getting more and more frequent. My dad loves her and does so much. We live in a million dollar home, have nice cars, go to priv. schools, and basically every modern commodity one could ask for. I know I fuel the fire sometimes like today and I regret it more than anything. I am afraid that because of my 16000 a year school + new bmw I am the reason there is less money and perhaps if I was subtracted from the equation things everyone would be happy again and love eachother. Is my mom (just turned 41) having a midlife crisis as my dad suggests or is menopause at fault for causing these dramatic episodes that are psychologically damaging and manifesting themselves in me physically and in my absurd recent suicidal thoughts. Has anyone experienced synonymous situations???? I will do anything to keep my parents together, ANYTHING. I mean we live within our means we just don't have money for as much extra as my mom wants, she keeps asking for more and more to keep up with the area we live in. As for my car, I think I'll get a job because frankly it would be very silly to sell a 36000 car for a much lower costing religious class.

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What to do with my life?
Hi my name is willie, i am 25 years old and in a midlife crisis. I also have a chronic skin disorder called psoriasis that has put me in a nasty funk. I dont go to school and im working part time at a bingo hall picking up tables and chairs. My life feels so empty. A few years ago i was healthy with no disease, in school, had a full time job but ever since this psoriasis hit me i have been stuck in a rut. Sometimes i wonder if my life is worth living anymore because it seems like i dont have much of a future only pain and sorrow is present. I have been so down on myself i wonder if my life will get better or will i be in this situation forever. Its not worth it to live your life constantly feeling sorry for yourself and i shouldnt live my life like this. I definitely need a change of direction otherwise... im stuck at a dead end for the rest of my life. Plus i have very few friends and they dont really understand what i am going through. Something's gotta give but if not i think i am done with life.

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