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Imagine
by guest
22 May 2012 at 9:44am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Chris Guillebeau of ChrisGuillebeau.com. Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do. Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich. [...]
The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]

 

 

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Here is your Sunday STORY on: THE LOVE OF WISDOM: What is preventing you from success? Your mind! In wisdom success is always attributed to money, but to other such successes such as achieving love and happiness. Yet whether we live in a world of wisdom or not the controller of our destiny is our own little self. We follow actions suggested within our mind. So ultimately the controller is our mind. We are all too well aware that TWO people or more exist within our mind; no one individual runs the whole show. It almost appears as if we have two opposite ends controlling all of our decisions, a GOOD GUY and a BAD GUY. In WISDOM the attempt is for the one true self to run the mind; we need to limit the effects of the others. The others may be referred to as the EGO, INNER TALKING, SELF TALK, CONVERSATIONS within the mind or many other weird and wonderful names various countries around the world give to them. Nevertheless if we want success we need to have some control of our own mind, we need to eliminate the bad and poor decision maker. Today's story is an illustration of how a strong and active mind can overcome difficulties. MY STORY I have a dream, and I will stay determined, work hard, and do everything in my power to make my dream a reality. Growing up, I had a lot of negativity in my life, and just recently, I experienced a success that I consider, a significant step towards my dream/goal for life. During my elementary/middle school years, achieving straight A's was never an easy task due to a mild learning disability. My disability lead to low quality test taking ability, which affected me a lot with the SAT's. However, during high school, I achieved almost all A's in which I am very proud of. The SAT's of course was the only thing holding me back from getting into the school of my choice. The school of my choice is located near Los Angeles, CA, the home of the entertainment industry. Working in the entertainment industry is my goal/dream, and just going to school in the same area was something to strive for in itself. With a mild disability in Reading Comprehension, the SAT Verbal Section was really to my disadvantage. I applied for extra timing numerous times, and got turned down each and every time. When I got a letter from the school, which was not a solid rejection, saying my SAT score did not reach the minimum for allowable admission, I began to lose hope. I started crying, hating myself, my life, standardized tests, among other things. I called up my admissions counsellor in tears when I received the letter and asked him nicely if there was anything else I could do to improve my application packet. My counsellor was one of the most understanding, kind, and considerate people I have ever met. He gave me a second chance to improve my scores and gave me suggestions of how to really prepare for the SAT. So, I purchased an 8 inch thick SAT prep booklet, and drilled away for 3 hours each day, during the 2 week period I had before the test. The book really stressed me out and I thought I was gonna die, trying to retain all of that information. Well, I finally took the test, and remained utterly nervous and scared for the 4 weeks prior to receiving my scores. I finally received my scores, and was ecstatic to see that I increased 50 points. My counsellor told me that I needed a 50-60 point increase for consideration. I was so happy! My admissions counsellor was very happy for me too, and sent my application packet to an appeal committee, convincing them that I really have the drive to go to their school and am determined to do well. My grades were stellar, which was a total plus. Just shows that a simple test score doesn't mean anything when it comes to measuring a person's intelligence and potential. After 3 weeks of waiting around for a decision, my counsellor called me and said "Congratulations Julia, you have been admitted." That literally made my year! I was so happy and excited, I wasn't in a bad mood about anything for a long time. I was so determined to make it into that school, I did anything to get there. No matter how rough the seas may get, never give up. If all the doors are closed, open one. If opportunity runs out, make more. If the storms get rough, they blow away, not you. My advice to anyone with a dream is to always believe in yourself, believe in the universe and you will for sure see good results. The path to any success, big or small, may get rough, and when it does, take charge, never settle for less than you are determined to get. The human being can do amazing things, and if the mind really dwells upon something, the body will react. Follow your dreams and never give up, because it's the losers that say success is only "luck". For an update on me, I just finished my first semester at Chapman University in Orange County CA, having earned a 3.7 GPA. My major is Communications, however I am switching to Theatre Performance. I am breaking into the modelling industry which I plan Television and Movies to follow. UCLA is in mind for transferring to as an undergraduate and/or future schooling. To everyone who took the time to read my story: God Bless every one of you, and may all of your lives shine like stars. (Julia Barys) QUOTE: 'It is hard to fight the enemy who has outposts in your head.' (Sally Kempton) [[ct]]: How To Grief

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How can I find Strength to go back to university? (Answers: 1) (Comments: 0)
I am 32 years old married woman with 7 years old boy and very complicated health issues (liver transplant, kidney failure, Bone disease and bone pain get tired and fatigue very easily) I also have a complicated marriage life with lots of anger toward my husband but I love my him. He is 34 years old and professional. Financially we are OK, not rich but we just survive without luxury like annual holiday or gifts in our life. In 2003 I started pharmacy course in one of the prestigious university and passed year 1, but every since I?ve struggled year two and each year half way I left and started again the following year. Still not managed it and this year I haven't even attempted because I am very ashamed of myself in front of uni. All my friends are qualified this year. Pharmacy is passion of my life. I have no other hobbies or anything. My hobby is reading about diseases and drugs too. too many time I told university that it's my health slowing me down but I know (and my husband knows) that it's my mental wellbeing due to our complicated relationship is preventing me. We have no friend and family support at all. My husband is emotionally very weak and has no friend or even relative. He is very sad that I gave up my dream because he couldn't emotionally support me. I told him I love him and I wanted pharmacy with him not without him and if I have to choose btw two, I chose him (which I have) but deep down I am destroyed. Each time I see folder and pens in shop I burst into tears. I can't get rid of my old notes and books. Still look through this year timetable. (3 weeks passed so far). I don't know how to grief. I tried so many therapist and marriage therapist but it's not benefiting us. How can I find the strengths to either back to it or leave it for good? I can't live any longer with this half hanged situation. Tomorrow is our 10th marriage anniversary. Please help.

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My father has died and don't know what to do...? (Answers: 12) (Comments: 0)
Just yesterday morning I had woken up shaken and had no idea that yesterday would be the day my dad dies. As of today I know try to keep my mom comfort so she doesn't drops ill. But other then that I have mixed feelings ranging from aniexty to frustration. Have no clue how to grief. I try to be strong and move on but, then people get mad at me like I don't care...I just don't know what to do it's such a confusing time for me. Since it's more confusing that I'm in highschool...please help.

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How can I find Strength to go back to university? (Answers: 4) (Comments: 0)
I am 32 years old married woman with 7 years old boy and very complicated health issues (liver transplant, kidney failure, Bone disease and bone pain get tired and fatigue very easily) I also have a complicated marriage life with lots of anger toward my husband but I love my him. He is 34 years old and professional. Financially we are OK, not rich but we just survive without luxury like annual holiday or gifts in our life. In 2003 I started pharmacy course in one of the prestigious university and passed year 1, but every since I?ve struggled year two and each year half way I left and started again the following year. Still not managed it and this year I haven't even attempted because I am very ashamed of myself in front of uni. All my friends are qualified this year. Pharmacy is passion of my life. I have no other hobbies or anything. My hobby is reading about diseases and drugs too. too many time I told university that it's my health slowing me down but I know (and my husband knows) that it's my mental wellbeing due to our complicated relationship is preventing me. We have no friend and family support at all. My husband is emotionally very weak and has no friend or even relative. He is very sad that I gave up my dream because he couldn't emotionally support me. I told him I love him and I wanted pharmacy with him not without him and if I have to choose btw two, I chose him (which I have) but deep down I am destroyed. Each time I see folder and pens in shop I burst into tears. I can't get rid of my old notes and books. Still look through this year timetable. (3 weeks passed so far). I don't know how to grief. I tried so many therapist and marriage therapist but it's not benefiting us. How can I find the strengths to either back to it or leave it for good? I can't live any longer with this half hanged situation. Tomorrow is our 10th marriage anniversary. Please help.

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