How To Be Happy With Myself

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The Pause Upon Which All Else Relies
by Leo
9 Feb 2012 at 8:56am
Post written by Leo Babauta. There is one little habit I’ve learned that has changed everything else in my life. The pause. When we fail, it’s because we act on urges without thinking, without realizing it. We have the urge to eat junk, and we do it. We have the urge to check email instead [...]
The Thousand Cuts Fitness Program
by Leo
6 Feb 2012 at 10:43am
Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ve trained for marathons, triathlons, 10Ks, a 13.5-hour challenge, Ubanathlons, and more. But my favorite fitness program isn’t one where you train for a major event. It’s where you get fit by a thousand little actions. When the actions are tiny, they are easy. You have no excuse. You can [...]
The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]


How To Be Happy With Myself

Here is your Tuesday STORY on: SELF DEVELOPMENT We live by our own knowledge and experience; we cannot deny that. But the real harm is when we don't use it. It is amazing to find that most every person wants to improve themselves, yet allow so much knowledge and experience to pass them by. Those who don't understand wisdom will concede that to progress we need to value all our GOOD moments and chart them. This is of course inaccurate, as we need to value our mistakes as it is these that lead us forward. If we only ever use the moments of excellence to guide us, we could be waiting a long time for that next moment to arrive. However, should we value every mistake we instantly correct our path and are unlikely to step down that dead end road again? The difference between the two approaches is that the person who learns from every moment of glory may only need to remember one principle every week. This could be defined as being lazy. Yet the person correcting mistakes and learning from them will expect nearer 100 to overcome each week. The greater skill and craft comes from those who practice more. There is no denying that the value of the better moment is important, but the skill comes from those who understand that constant use of your senses improves their clarity. Without this clearness of vision we'll fall into the same trap over and over again. Today's excerpt includes a wealth of experience from a well respected author and television presenter. WHAT I HAVE LEARNED I Have Learned that... ... the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. ... when you're in love, it shows. ... just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day. ... having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world. ... being kind is more important than being right. ... you should never say no to a gift from a child. ... I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way. ... no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with. ... sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand. ... simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult. ... life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. ... we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for. ... money doesn't buy class. ... it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular. ... under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. ... the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can? ... to ignore the facts does not change the facts. ... when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you. ... love, not time, heals all wounds. ... the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am. ... everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile. ... there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks. ... no one is perfect until you fall in love with them. ... life is tough, but I'm tougher. ... opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss. ... when you harbour bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere. ... I wish I could have told my Dad that I love him one more time before he passed away. ... one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them. ... a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks. ... I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it. ... when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, you know that you're hooked for life. ... everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it. ... it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation. ... the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done. (By Andy Rooney) QUOTE: "Results! Why, man, I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that don't work.' (Thomas Edison)


How can i be happy and stay myself in a new relationship?
I put all my hopes and happiness on the other person's shoulder and I want them to love me so much but when i realise it might not work I am crushed. I have low self esteem and I would like to know how to be happy with myself and feel confident in a relationship... not needy.

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My idenical twin sister?
My identical twin sister is prettier, more popular, and more embarassing, about 10 pounds skinnier than I am. I hate myself, my life, and the way I look. My parents treasure her because she is so skinny, blonde, and goddess looking. I don't know how to be happy with myself and my looks. Advice?

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How do you learn to love yourself?
I am diagnosed with depression and I know that much of it has to do with my self-esteem. I have very little of it. I feel unattractive, i am shy, i dont like to be center of attention, I am told that I am beautiful but I dont see what they do. I need to learn how to be happy with myself.

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Grammys 2012: Fleet Foxes has foot in folk past, ear for today

10 Feb 2012 at 1:16pm  Nominated for contemporary folk album at the Grammy Awards for ?Helplessness Blues,? Fleet Foxes is just happy to be part of the group with its classic American sound and contemporary influences. Until Fleet Foxes won a contemporary folk nomination this...

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In conversation: Nathan Englander and Jonathan Safran Foer

10 Feb 2012 at 11:26am  The two writers discuss the art of fiction, Jewishness and their new collaboration Jonathan Safran Foer and I are sitting at the table in the back of his kitchen, on a bright, sunny, global-warmed winter day (that is, it's a happy sort of sunny, but I'm pretty sure we should be sad about it). This visit is like any other visit to his kitchen ? which is one mile straight down the road from mine ...

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Readers offer advice on teen sex, moving back in with parents

10 Feb 2012 at 2:16am  While I?m away, readers give the advice. On teenage girls who have sex: As a successful (academically, professionally, happy with life, etc.) nearly 30-year-old woman who started having sex at 16, I would like to offer reassurance to the concerned adults that early-onset sexual activity does not a failed life make. Read full article >>

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