How To Be Happy In A Relationship

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Imagine
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22 May 2012 at 9:44am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Chris Guillebeau of ChrisGuillebeau.com. Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do. Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich. [...]
The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]

 

 

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Here is your Saturday STORY on: SOLVING PROBLEMS: Few people will understand how to apply SACRIFICE. Today's story is the very story that you will not forget easily, as it is the perfect illustration. The story is sad and it is sure to make you ponder over the possibilities, but I'll introduce it with some guidance. When you solve a problem you complete a task that prevents what was the problem coming back and causing anguish again. That being such, as deciding as a country's president or prime minister to go to war; or as huge as that was to look at more regular day to day events such as deciding whether to clean the fridge or not. In WISDOM you cannot deem a problem on the eventual consequences, although tempted as you may be. You deal with every problem as if you needed to answer to a higher source should the situation occur. If you opened the fridge door over the period of a week and the same lingering smell drifted out, you'd need to take action. This is no different in solving the problem of whether to go to war or not. We cannot sweep the problem under the carpet and hope it goes away, we need to evaluate what would solve the problem the causes the heartache and act. We act following our good judgement. This can only be considered good judgement is we actively and on a regular basis try to improve our skill at making good judgements. If that judgement hasn't improved for twenty years, then it may be in need of an overhaul. Looking once more at the bad odour from the fridge, you decide against cleaning it because you have more important tasks that lay ahead. Establishing priorities is difficult as today's story illustrates, but we must prevent an easily invented excuse from doing a chore that is essential. A bad odour could eventually cause ill-health. We NEED to sacrifice a more enjoyable task, such as shopping for clothes on a Saturday, to cleaning out the fridge. The one hour task will soon be over a done with and we still may find time to look around the shops. We NEED to SACRIFCE regularly to engage in more important tasks. Not as in biblical times to sacrifice an animal, but to sacrifice an otherwise desirable event to complete a more mundane chore. THE BRIDGE KEEPER There was once a bridge which spanned a large river. During most of the day the bridge sat with its length running up and down the river parallel with the banks, allowing ships to pass thru freely on both sides of the bridge. But at certain times each day, a train would come along and the bridge would be turned sideways across the river, allowing the train to cross. A switchman sat in a small shack on one side of the river where he operated the controls to turn the bridge and lock it into place for the trains to cross. One evening the switchman was waiting for the last train of the day to come, when thru the dimming twilight he caught sight of the train lights. He stepped to the controls and when the train was within a prescribed distance, he turned the bridge into position. Although to his astonishment, he found the locking control was not working. If the bridge was not locked in position it would wobble back and forth at the ends and cause the train to jump the track and go crashing into the river. And this would be a passenger train with many people aboard. He left the bridge turned across the river, and hurried across the bridge to the other side of the river where there was a control lever which he could operate manually to lock the bridge in place. He would have to hold the lever back firmly as the train crossed. He could hear the rumble of the train, and he took hold of the lever and leaned backward to apply his weight to it, locking the bridge. He kept applying the pressure to keep the mechanism locked. Many lives depended on this man's strength. Then, from the direction of his control shack across the bridge, he heard a sound that made his blood run cold. "Daddy, where are you?" His four-year-old son was crossing the bridge to look for him. His first impulse was to cry out to the child, "Run! Run!" But the train was too close; the tiny legs would never make it across the bridge in time. In the same instant, he almost left the lever to run and snatch up his son and carry him to safety. But he realized that he could not get back to the lever in time for the train to pass safely. Either the people on the train or his little son would have to die. It took a moment to make his decision. The train sped safely and swiftly on its way. No one on board was even aware of the tiny broken body thrown mercilessly into the river by the onrushing train. Nor were they aware of the pitiful figure of the sobbing man, still clinging tightly to the locking lever long after the train had passed. Neither did they see him walking home more slowly than he had ever walked before, to tell his wife how they had lost their son. QUOTE: 'Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakes.' (Kahlil Gibran) [[ct]]: How To Be Happy In A Relationship

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Kellen Winslow Won't Be Happy with Seattle Seahawks: Fan Opinion - Yahoo! Sports

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22 May 2012 at 11:48am 

For Dads From Dads- Sorry
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Kinect Now Knows When You're Happy, Sad, Planning to Turn It Off - PCWorld

22 May 2012 at 11:03am 

Kinect Now Knows When You're Happy, Sad, Planning to Turn It Off
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What We Know Now About How to Be Happy - The Atlantic

17 May 2012 at 8:57am 

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What We Know Now About How to Be Happy
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I constantly feel happy and than sad in the relationship I am in. I do not want to leave im 22 and have been with this guy since i was 16. I just want to be happy. I dont know how to sustain that though. He currently goes to chiropractic school and I am going to be starting medical school I dont want this tension to effect my grades. BUt i feel like he doesnt think I am good enough, or that he will play me. I just cant get the past out of my head. What should do I do. What are the keys of being happy in a relationship?

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