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Imagine
by guest
22 May 2012 at 9:44am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Chris Guillebeau of ChrisGuillebeau.com. Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do. Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich. [...]
The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]

 

 

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Here is your Friday STORY on: HAPPINESS: Do we ever do enough to maintain our capacity to be happy? Once we've ascertained some understanding on what feeds the roots of happiness, we actively need to replenish the fodder. I was once reading an article from a well known musician and singer from the 1960's. He maintained that one of the biggest attributes he possessed was his ability to talk and be polite. He said that there was one particular sentence that open more doors than you could imagine. Now before I tell you the sentence, a wise person would have used this on numerous occasions during every day. But what made this sentence particular impressive was this musician used it to advance his career, from a mere jobbing musician and singer to international artiste. The sentence was, 'Can you help me please.' The musician claimed that people have an incredible desire to help. So upon hearing this question people just naturally want to be HELPFUL. As with a ripple in a lake, if we ask for help 'more often' then that would start the ripple; however before that ripple reaches the edge of the lake we need to start another. This is how often we need to feed and maintain our level of happiness. One way is to encourage people, including you, is to never be too proud to ask for help. Today's story is a slight twist to this scenario, but nonetheless the main theme is being HELPFUL. AN AUSSIE STORY Years ago a hardworking man took his family from New York State to Australia to take advantage of a work opportunity there. Part of this man's family was a handsome young son who had aspirations of joining the circus as a trapeze artist or an actor. This young fellow, biding his time until a circus job or even one as a stagehand came along, worked at the local shipyards which bordered on the worse section of town. Walking home from work one evening this young man was attacked by five thugs who wanted to rob him. Instead of just giving up his money the young fellow resisted. However they bested him easily and proceeded to beat him to a pulp. They mashed his face with their boots, and kicked and beat his body brutally with clubs, leaving him for dead. When the police happened to find him lying in the road they assumed he was dead and called for the Morgue Wagon. On the way to the morgue a policeman heard him gasp for air, and they immediately took him to the emergency unit at the hospital. When he was placed on a gurney a nurse remarked to her horror, that this young man no longer had a face. Each eye socket was smashed, his skull, legs, and arms fractured, his nose literally hanging from his face, all is teeth were gone, and his jaw was almost completely torn from his skull. Although his life was spared, he spent over a year in the hospital. When he finally left, his body may have healed but his face was disgusting to look at. He was no longer the handsome youth that everyone admired. When the young man started to look for work again he was turned down by everyone just on account of the way he looked. One potential employer suggested to him that he join the freak show at the circus as The Man Who Had No Face. And he did this for a while. He was still rejected by everyone and no one wanted to be seen in his company. He had thoughts of suicide. This went on for five years. One day he passed a church and sought some solace there. Entering the church he encountered a priest who saw him sobbing while kneeling in a pew. The priest took pity on him and took him to the rectory where they talked at length. The priest was impressed with him to such a degree that he said that he would do everything possible for him that could be done to restore his dignity and life, if the young man would promise to be the best Catholic he could be, and trust in God's mercy to free him from his torturous life. The young man went to Mass and communion every day, and after thanking God for saving his life, asked God to only give him peace of mind and the grace to be the best man he could ever be in His eyes. The priest, through his personal contacts was able to secure the services of the best plastic surgeon in Australia. There would be no cost to the young man, as the doctor was the priest's best friend. The doctor too was so impressed by the young man. Whose outlook now on life, even though he had experienced the worst, was filled with good humor and love. The surgery was a miraculous success. All the best dental work was also done for him. The young man became everything he promised God he would be. He was also blessed with a wonderful, beautiful wife, many children, and success in an industry which would have been the furthest thing from his mind as a career, if not for the goodness of God and the love of the people who cared for him. This he acknowledges publicly. The young man's name is... Mel Gibson. (Attributed to Paul Harvey) QUOTE: 'Go often to the house of thy friend; for weeds soon choke up an unused path.' (Scandinavian Proverb) [[ct]]: Help Being Happy

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how do i make a girl feel happy if shes down?
this girl i know, shes the world to me and shes like really bummed out she failed one of her finals and other shit thats going on, is there anything i can do to cheer her up and help be happy again?

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What are your top ten ways to be happy?
No sexual/crude comments PLEASE!!! This question should be suitable for all ages to answer and read!! I kinda need some help being happy. I'm really down right now, and I need some help bringing my spirit back up. :( Thanks everyone. Remember, NO CRUDE COMMENTS!

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Unwanted abortion, wanting to get pregnant again?
I wanted to write a question that I really hope I can get some help with. About 6 months ago I had an abortion that I really did not want to have, the pregnancy wasn?t planned but the dad and I had just started dating (we where both in relationships before but very good friends). I had always thought that if I got pregnant by exedent I would get an abortion but the amazing thing was that when I found out that I was pregnant or got a confirmation that I was (because I somehow just knew the next day) I was over whelmed whit joy. I told my partner about the pregnancy and he totally freaked out, said things like he didn?t understand that I would even consider keeping the baby and such. After a lot of fighting and talking and crying, he finally got to his senses and said that he would support me in what I wanted to do, although he made it clear that he wanted me to have an abortion. I was then determined to keep the baby, and like I had told him it would be up to him if he wanted to be any part of this (of course I hoped he would be). Then I called my mother to tell her the news, expecting her to be really happy (she has always been obsessed with me having kids, talking about how it?s better to have kids young and such I?m 25). When I told her she reacted way differently than I would have thought basically suggesting I got an abortion. My mom has always been my best friend and we are very close so this was a huge disappointment and shock for me. I told some of my really good friends that where all happy and exited for me, but the two people that mattered the most wanted me to terminate the pregnancy. At some point I decided to make an appointment but not to have the procedure done, but when I got there with my boyfriend I was in such a daze and so confused and exhausted from fighting, I felt like I had no control and before I knew the procedure was done, I wasn?t pregnant anymore. I don?t even remember the whole thing but the doctor told me when I went for a check up I cried the whole time (why she wouldn?t stop I don?t understand). The first month after, I was very sick and had tons of complications. Well to try and wrap this up, I have been seriously sad even depressed ever since, I have horrible dreams and can?t stop thinking about my baby. Also I am so mad at them (even though I don?t want to and love them so much but I just cant help it) because I feel like they got what they wanted and took away the thing I wanted the most. For a while things between that ?dad? and me where a little strange but then we started really dating again. Since the abortion I haven?t been able to thing about anything but to get pregnant again, I even thought about quitting my birth control (that I hate, because it just reminds me every day that I can?t get pregnant) without telling him (I honestly never thought I would even think thoughts as crazy as this). Three months ago my boyfriend comes over after going out and having a few beers with his buddies, and starts telling me how awful he feels about the baby, how much he loves me and how he wants to have kid with me. I was really surprised for this sudden change of heart and a bit skeptical, but couldn?t help being happy. A few days later when I start talking about this (both parties sober) he tells me he probably said more than he should have and that at this point he thinks having a baby isn?t a good idea. Since then we haven?t talked about it but all I wasn?t is to get pregnant and I feel like I?ll never get ?better? until I do get pregnant and have his child, whether he sticks around or not. I am well on my way to get my PhD at a very prestigious university, I ?m lucky enough to have the financial means to take care of myself and a baby (even him not that he needs that by any means) and could very well afford hiring help. I don?t know what his deal is, I know he loves me and wants to be with me (the man has picked out song for our wedding!) but I feel like he is to afraid to take the step, and when he dose he kind of backs out of it again. What do I do? I?m so confused ?. I wanted to say thank you, and belief me when I say, I know this was ultimately my choice and I can not blame them for it, I take and have taken full responsibility for what I did which is also why I?m feeling this bad, it?s not a great feeling hurting your self this much.

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