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The Pause Upon Which All Else Relies
by Leo
9 Feb 2012 at 8:56am
Post written by Leo Babauta. There is one little habit I’ve learned that has changed everything else in my life. The pause. When we fail, it’s because we act on urges without thinking, without realizing it. We have the urge to eat junk, and we do it. We have the urge to check email instead [...]
The Thousand Cuts Fitness Program
by Leo
6 Feb 2012 at 10:43am
Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ve trained for marathons, triathlons, 10Ks, a 13.5-hour challenge, Ubanathlons, and more. But my favorite fitness program isn’t one where you train for a major event. It’s where you get fit by a thousand little actions. When the actions are tiny, they are easy. You have no excuse. You can [...]
The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]


Happy Married Life

INTRODUCTION to our subject

Steps to

Happiness


I thought it appropriate that the next few articles should mirror the content of the book I'm writing.

I hope you enjoy...
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Excerpt...

QUOTE: 'The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.' (William H. Ward).

Finding true happiness is a very personal journey.

There isn't a simple set of guidelines to give you happiness, because every individual finds happiness in different things. But the purpose of this book is to explore a different realm of understanding.

What may trigger sadness in one person could trigger happiness in another. So rather than look at specific events we shall need to look at varying emotive subjects and explore their potential.

Amongst other things I shall introduce a few concepts about 'being happy' that you have forgotten existed...

I say forgotten deliberately because we all possess a happy spirit, but sometimes we forget how to trigger it into action.

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I'm sure that you are aware that happiness can be triggered into action. Rarely will you feel you need this trigger until you acknowledge that you're not happy.

Imagine for a moment a recent occasion of sadness. As you do this your recollection may make this memory so vivid that you'll feel a flood of sadness returning. Stop this memory immediately.

It will follow as a matter of consequence that if you experience the sensations of a previous sadness you're also likely to encounter a similar emotional behaviour if you are to remember a period of happiness.

We've all been travelling alone in a busy environment and suddenly remembered an incident that happened earlier that day which brought a huge smile to your face. So big was the smile that you felt embarrassed and quickly checked around if anybody saw your surprising behaviour.

Rather than allow that embarrassed feeling, we should cherish the moment. This moment has POWER!

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Excerpt...

QUOTE: 'It is self-evident that a generous heart and wholesome actions lead to a greater peace. It is equally clear that their negative counterparts bring undesirable consequences. Happiness arises from virtuous causes. If we truly desire to be happy, there is no other way to proceed but by way of virtue.' (Dalai Lama)

QUOTE: 'The good news is that a GREAT LIFE is available to each and every one of us. Living well and making a difference do not require money, fame or power. Living well is about taking time to live your own life on your own terms. It's about caring and sharing, about loving and dancing, and sharing a meal with a friend, or with a stranger. Life is short - give it your very best, every day!'
(Philip Humbert).

How much effort do we need to apply to achieve greater happiness?

Do we dedicate time to plan and plot our next period of happiness, or do we allow our perception to see happiness in everything?

It is a misconception that we need to ADD to achieve more happiness; LETTING GO can be the better approach. Generally speaking we can all remember how happy we were as a child, it is with the ADDING that life becomes complex and subsequently more confusing.

Happiness is therefore more about letting go than plotting and planning your future.

Plotting and planning has its place but it needs to be embraced with happiness and not squeezed from a part empty tube by a negative emotion.

Consider this... One third of our life we go through a period of letting go, but we forget that we do it. When we go to sleep and wake up, we let go of the day or the dream.

Working hard to achieve happiness will work in time, but you'll experience a rollercoaster ride; all you really need to do is to practice letting go? It is a process of 'non doing'...
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QUOTE: 'One of the most sublime experiences we can ever have is to wake up feeling healthy after we have been sick.'

(Rabbi Harold Kushner)

One of the most important aspects of improving your happiness is to understand that the quality of your decision is dependent upon your state of mind. If happy your decisions are good, if sad then your decisions could trap you into a period of negative decisions. Allow these next few stories illustrate the decisions you make under pressure.

2. STORY 1

THE PREACHER

A preacher wanted to visit an elderly person in his congregation, but when he arrived in her neighbourhood, there was nowhere to park. He drove around and finally, in frustration, he parked in a red zone. Not wanting a ticket, he took out a piece of church stationary and wrote a brief note.

"I have driven around the block ten times and there is no place to park. I have an urgent appointment. Forgive us our trespasses. -Pastor Williams."

Upon returning to his car, he found a parking ticket and an attached note that said, "Dear Pastor, I have driven around this block for ten years, and if I don't give you a ticket, I will lose my job. Lead us not into temptation."
-Officer Steve.

(Unknown Author)

3. Story 2

WRAPPING PAPER

The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 5-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of expensive gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became even more upset when the child pasted the gold paper so as to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.

Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift box to her Father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy."

The father was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found the box was empty. He spoke to her in a harsh manner: "Don't you know, young Lady, when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside the package?

The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said: "Daddy, it's not empty. I blew kisses into it until it was full."

The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his little girl, and he begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

An accident took the life of the child only a short time later and it is told that the father kept that gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. And whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems he would open the box and take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us as human beings have been given a golden box filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, family, friends and God.

There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.

(Author Unknown)

5: RESPONDING TO YOUR QUESTIONS:

QUESTION: 'At my place of work I meet many people with different emotions and often they pull me into their realm. What can I do?'

ANSWER: Life is a reflection of you. If you are sad, then no doubt the people you meet will be sad, somehow you don't see the happy people pass you by. If you are happy on the other hand your blinkers are removed and you see everyone.

If you are weak and can't easily identify your state of mind, you'll soak up the emotion of the next person your meet. These are generally negative emotions. If you are happy, a strong and powerful emotion, you'll be the one to change a situation.

THE MOUNTAIN STORY

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain:
"AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"
Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"
He receives the answer: "Who are you?"
Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"
He receives the answer: "Coward!"
He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"
The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention."
And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"
The voice answers: "I admire you!"
Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"
The voice answers: "You are a champion!"
The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.
It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.
If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.
This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;
Life will give you back everything you have given to it."

And the moral to this story...
YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

(Author Unknown)

 

Why My Story Will Shock You... And How After What Seemed To Be An Endless 48 Month Battle, I Eventually Understood the Magic of Happiness.

 

I'm extremely relieved that you've found my web page because not only will my story shock you, it'll almost certainly save your health, your money as well as a lot of time and heart ache.

 

HERE IS WHAT I FOUND...

HERE IS WHAT EVERYONE FOUND IT DID...

HERE IS HOW TO GET IT...

 

We'll start with:

HERE IS WHAT I FOUND...

 

I have experienced the difficulties of life, sorrow, sadness, depression, heartache, pain, grief, anxiety, panic, fear, anger, frustration and misery... I almost felt as if I was walking about with a ball and chain around my leg. I was a desperate man.

 

My expertise and my career was lost, my finances got out of hand, I was depressed, sad, lonely and alone...

 

But that has all changed!

 

Eventually, I found something that worked

 

I discovered how to rid my day of all the sorrows and catapult my energy and enthusiasm sky high.

 

One of the surprising facts about my discovery was that if you apply these techniques to any problem, the problem isn't so harsh and suddenly you're presented with answers to resolve it.

 

Allow me to explain with an illustration...

 

Has a friend every helped you resolve a problem? In doing so, did they suggest an answer you already knew? When you are sad your ability to 'recognise the truth' is almost lost; your mind will present you with answers, but they will be ignored. Did you follow your friend's advice or ignore that advice too?

 

Yet when you're 'happy' you know both the answer and the direction to follow.

 

Getting an answer from an 'AUTHORITY' is also needed when you are frustrated an angry, sad or depressed. You don't accept your first consideration, neither do you accept family members or friend's advice. The only way you'll accept an answer is if it comes from an authority. That authority maybe a doctor, a tradesman, a qualified individual such as a chiropodist, a psychologist; or strangely even the television. Nonetheless they need to be deemed by you as the authority on the subject.

 

Yet ... may I repeat ... that when you're 'happy' you know both the answer and the direction to follow.

 

So ... as I understood it ... I needed to map out a system and procedure to follow to rid myself of the torment of my sadness. Here is a list I wrote that I need to inject into my life

 

  Smile a lot more

  Laugh a lot more

  Prevent those moments of sadness lingering

  Develop your inner self

  Improve your sense of 'well-being'

  Remove the anguish and frustration

  Find more energy and strength

  Discover the secrets of prolonging your happiness

  Dispel those annoying negative thoughts

  Collect and store new ideas and concepts

  Become the person you've always wanted to be

  Shrug off the reasons you're unhappy

  Grow more positive by being happy

  See the people around grow happy with you

  Never allow sadness to dominate anymore

  See more opportunities arise before you

  Understand the beauty that happiness brings

  Interrupt sadness with your new happy persona

  Expect improvements of mind, body and spirit

  Self help becomes instinctive

  Life becomes easier, problems become fewer

  Extending your skills are problem free

  Other people can become astounded by your freedom

  Heighten your senses to expand your life

  Enjoy life with a bigger smile

  Avoid wasting time on idle thoughts

  Expand your potential

  Feel good about feeling good

  Learn how to switch from sadness to happiness

 

So it took me 48 months to realise you need a system of understanding; and then I needed to write it into a format and guide. By the time I'd finished I'd wrote my own book!

 

I began to share the findings with a few people and had some very good responses. I already had a 'Wisdom and Philosophy' website so the topic was both relevant and appropriate to add to that website should I think it suitable.

 

I sat on the possibility for a while ... then a few people who I'd copied the basic techniques to, read the content and came back with really exciting comments...

 

HERE IS WHAT EVERYONE FOUND IT DID...

 

"It wasn't just the techniques that inspired me but the illustrations...Mark"

 

"... The short stories of illustration we're spot on! ... Rebecca"

 

"Sometimes these topics go over my head. But each technique has an example. Phil ... do yourself a favour and convert this material into a book. ... Helen."

 

I read with interest your comments on " What Love Brings ". Having read this section I found my heart touched and my eyes filled with tears. The information made me look back on my life on how I have been touched & loved in so many different ways. It made me also realize what responsibility we have towards each other, and what influence we have in others lives.
May you be blessed with more wisdom to carry on the good work. You are changing and touching peoples lives out there. God bless, Carl

 

I just want to say that your section 'Inner Conflict' hit home for me. I am going through a very difficult time in my own life. I have always been a strong person. With situations I am dealing with in my life at the present I feel I don't have much strength left. I don't know why or for what reason you created this material, but I just want to let you know your messages have help me. And, I thank you for that. I am a firm believer that things do happen for a reason. I also believe people enter each other's lives for a reason. I don't know why you're there, but I do know who you are.......Thank You...........(smile). Jan

 

Phil, I just sat down to begin my day and found a section of your material just waiting for me. I enjoyed your stories and was very appreciative of how it affected my day. Your labor is a work of the heart and I encourage you to continue with your message of evolution of the spirit.
(Regards, drrobert@a*****.com)

 

As a quick illustration of the type of stories you can expect within the ebook, please enjoy this short example.
 
TWO WOLVES
 
An old Grandfather, whose grandson came to him with anger at a schoolmate who had done him an injustice, said, "Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."
 
He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offence when no offence was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way."
 
"But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."
 
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"
 
The Grandfather solemnly said, "The one I feed."
 
(Unknown Author)

 

 

HERE IS HOW TO GET IT...

 

 

 

 

Editor and Author from www.Wisdom-and-Philosophy.com

Wednesday 8.30am

 

 

 

 

 

Dear Reader,

 

How can I be Happy? A regular question to my websites, but there are answers...

 

Everyone has a sleeping giant within! We need to tap into our inner potential rather than always looking on the outside to add.

 

We all have the potential to be happy, but for some unknown reason there is a mental block preventing this flow of happiness.

 

I can help you discover new and old secrets and unravel those mysteries.

 

We don't need to look for happiness - it is already within us, we just need to connect to it. Let me help you find that connecting link.

 

One of the most IMPORTANT aspects that I use to explain these concepts and principals is by using the technique 'Education through Illustration'. Wherever possible I have included an illustration or story to expand and illuminate the understanding. Practically each main heading and sub heading has a story of illustration.

 

With 87, 000+ words, this ebook will become a reference point for your future self development.

 

HOW TO BE HAPPY

(Without The Effort)

 

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My articles have appeared in National and Local Newspapers

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so do aquarius settle down and live a happy married life?
Becuase I'm afraid I might be alone for the rest of my life, I always meet a guy and I think I like him then I always end up loosing interest.

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Query to all astrologers specially shivaniji?
Birth Details: 22.05.1987, 3.30 PM, Ujjain (M.P) India I request to all the senior astrologers to kindly have a look at my chart and help me with my following queries: 1.What kind of marriage i will be having? 2.Kind of spouse? her nature,whether she will be faithful or not? 3.qualities of my spouse and her appearance? 4.how will be my married life? Some astrologer told me that i have kalathra dosh so i will not have a happy married life also my spouse will be cruel,selfish and she may betray me. After knowing this m really worried and thought of begetting your valuable views and opinions on this as i never had smooth relationships in my life so i am more worried on this Pls help me. Eagerly awaiting for ur valuable replies can u pls provide me remedies also as i've tried everything but no one has suggested me anything so it would be kind enough of u to pls provide me remedies too

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can a tamil boy live happily with punjabi girl if they marry ?
hi! i am a tamil guy and working as a software engineer . I met a punjabi girl and was instantly attracted to her around 10 months back . we started as Friends , although for me i had a huge crush on her since the very first day . she took me as very normally and i was scared to tell her my feelings. first i thought its just attraction and infatuation i have for her but with time my feelings for her became stronger and i have realised she is the one i want to spend my life with. with great courage i told her about my feelings and she also said she likes me a lot but she feels we are too different in community , culture and language. she does not know tamil and i know very less hindi so most of our conversation is in english. I have talked about this in my family also , they are ok and say i can marry anyone i like and they just want me to be happy. but few of my Friends feel that its very difficult and will need lots of adjustments. At present i am hopelessly in love with her and cant think of any one else for me if i have to marry either it is her or no one else. her family is also fine and they also like me . but due to constant negative feedback by few friends and relatives i m bit confused. i would like to know if anyone has had such cross culture wedding and what are the problems faced by the couple ? is it wrong to marry some one u love Just because they are from different community ? can only those people have happy married life who have same culture ? please help me ! only genuine advice is needed! ya i forgot to add she also said she loves me :) but for her also its bit confusing due to difference in language and culture !

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