Happy Marriage
Here is your Monday STORY on: LOVE: I write today's Daily Wisdom knowing of its truth. We dream and read how love should be perfect. It is not too long before subconsciously that is how we expect it to be. So if it doesn't measure up we question its very existence. My life wouldn't be too dissimilar to most. I have a family I love and seldom does anything question its intensity, or for the purpose of today's subject, its perfection. I may know where to turn for some inspirational wisdom, but under pressure, these circumstances can alter. I use the word pressure, when it could be words such as stress or confusion. The route of my dilemma however was nothing so grand; it was toothache. This very pain had been frustrating my approach to everything. In other words I was on a short fuse. I would guess however my version of a short fuse will differ in time and intensity than most. My two children were to be annoying sooner than normal and this had caused me distress as I saw this play of frustration unfold. I also found that my normal politeness was lost and every comment was more forthright and demanding. Soon to be an explosion! All because of toothache... I am a man, and was sure the toothache would disappear. Rather than explain any more of my own personal story, I would hope you could see how a 'Stitch in time could save nine.' Had I realised sooner I needed attention at a dentist then my fuse would have remained long. When you are in love every imperfection is accepted, to the point of being an attribute to the love. When you live on a short fuse those small imperfections are not accepted anymore. The very fact you are questioning these imperfections is for a reason that is self inflicted. I can confirm that during this play of pain and anguish that I was experiencing, the more I realised I was doing it, the more the fuse shortened. I was becoming more and more frustrated. I was questioning the very perfection of each member of the family unit. Imperfections are tolerated, accepted and adored in love. Perfection does not exist, only in love. Do not search for perfection, search for love. Whilst this next story, a Zen story, means little on its own, if it is taken in context with 'Perfection comes after love, ' you'll understand it better. PERFECTION DOESN'T EXIST 'I'm getting married on the morrow, Mulla, ' pronounced his friend, smiling from ear to ear. Mulla Nusrudin was quiet and thoughtful. 'Isn't marriage wonderful, Mulla. It is quite the best! Have you ever considered getting married, Mulla?' Mulla Nasrudin sighed, 'In my youth I thought of nothing else. In fact, I so wanted to find the perfect wife I travelled the world searching for her. In Damascus, I met a woman who was beautiful, spiritual and loving, but, alas, she had no worldly knowledge. In Isphahan, I met a woman who was beautiful, loving and worldly, but, alas, she was not interested in the spiritual life.' 'Where did you travel to next, Mulla?' asked his friend. 'I forgot where, but I met a woman who was truly spiritual, loving and worldly, but, alas, she was not beautiful. Finally, I went to Cairo and there, after much searching, I found the perfect wife. She was everything I wanted her to be. She was perfect, ' sighed Mulla Nasrudin. 'If she was so perfect, why did you not marry her, Mulla?' asked the friend. 'Alas, ' said Mulla Nasrudin, shaking his head, 'she was, unfortunately, looking for the perfect husband!' (An old Sufi story) The clue here of course is that Mulla would need to be in love first! Before perfection would exist.The quote that follows also shows how, when in love, the world is better. QUOTE: 'When you have loved as she has loved, you grow old beautifully." (W. Somerset Maugham).
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Congratulations Angela & David - Burlington County Times
5 Feb 2012 at 1:56am David Donovan Leslie and Kevin Donovan of Newtown are happy to announce the engagement of their son ... where he bent down on one knee and asked for her hand in marriage. Our Angela, in a rare moment, was rendered speechless, briefly, before ...Read more...
I DON'T - Winnipeg Free Press
5 Feb 2012 at 1:48am "A new generation has grown up in a world where marriage is not a certainty. If they're 20 years into adult relationships and haven't found somebody they want to marry, maybe they've changed their minds about how necessary marriage is." Bella DePaulo ...Read more...
LETTER: Happy about vote on gay marriage - Bellingham Herald
5 Feb 2012 at 12:30am I was super excited to read today that the Legislature is expected to vote to legalize gay marriage here in Washington state. I am a software developer, so I was smiling with pride reading about Microsoft's support. But as a Christian, and a ...Read more...
Loose Women star Denise Welch plays happy families with husband Tim.. then .....
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One hundred year old Ellen Buxton reveals the secrets of her 81-year happy .....
4 Feb 2012 at 4:40pm  Mirror.co.uk | Mirror.co.uk ?We have always been happy because we are good friends as well as being husband and wife,? says Ellen. ?We always make sure we have nice evenings out, whether it is a romantic meal or just going out to play bingo.? They even love the same sports, ... |
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Most singles are happy to stay that way, says survey - Seattle Post Intellige...
3 Feb 2012 at 6:40pm A survey conducted for Match.com revealed that only 34.5 percent said marriage is a major goal. About 40 percent aren?t sure they want to be married, and 27 percent don?t see marriage happening any time soon. So, what?s the point of ...Read more...
Heidi Klum and Seal Have No Plans of Reconciliation - Gather Celebs News Channel
3 Feb 2012 at 6:35pm  Daily Mail | Gather Celebs News Channel It was a shock when Heidi Klum and Seal announced that they were separating after several years of marriage. It turns out that things weren't as happy and romantic behind the scenes as one may have thought. Heidi and Seal were experts at putting on a ... Heidi Klum STILL wears her wedding ring during lunch with daughter Leni as it ...Daily Mail Heidi Klum Boasts Of Happy Marriage In Pre-Split InterviewPopular Critic Heidi Klum and Seal: What Blew Up Their Marriage?Huffington Post (blog) Yahoo!7 News -Fox News all 102 news articles » |
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Valentine's weekend seminar explores secrets of happy marriage - Willits News
3 Feb 2012 at 2:51pm Marriage on the Rock, a free Valentine's weekend seminar, will be held from 7 to 9:30 p.m. next Friday, February 10, and from 9 a.m. to noon on Saturday, February 11, at Agape Bible Church, 290 Lenore Avenue. The Saturday session includes a ...Read more...
Kirk Cameron works at happy home life - Houston Chronicle
2 Feb 2012 at 4:51pm Houston Chronicle Whether you want to avoid divorce or simply make a good marriage better, Cameron says the lessons from his 2008 film Fireproof, its Love Dare book and the LWFF seminars are good tools. "Sometimes my wife and I think about the fact that we can fail at a ... and more » |
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Secret to a Happy Marriage: 2 Vacations per Year, 1 Argument Per Week - KGO-A...
2 Feb 2012 at 10:35am Getting away on vacation twice a year was cited as one of the key ingredients in a happy marriage. Fifty-eight percent of respondents said they like to get away because it helps remind them of why they love each other so much. Fifty-five percent ...Read more...
