Happy Being Single

I don't want to date but I hate turning people down?
I'm in graduate school in an extremely male-dominated field, to the point where I'm the only woman in the department out of 30 or so students. This means that I frequently have guys wanting to ask me out. I am honestly quite happy being single and feel that a relationship at this point in my life would be a major mistake. The trouble is that the romantic interest often eclipses everything else. At this point I want to be forming professional relationships, not picking out a boyfriend. I feel like I'm constantly having to watch my behavior to make sure I'm not "leading someone on" - something which impinges on my own ability to get along with people, as it seems trying to be friendly and talk to people gets interpreted as flirting. They really are nice guys most of the time, and I really hate all the awkwardness and hurt feelings that come with having to turn someone down. I've found myself roped into more than a few pseudo-dates out of pity because I like these guys as friends and don't want to hurt them. Plus no one seems to believe that I'm actually "not interested in a relationship" - every single time, the guy assumes he's just not good enough. I'm not trying to brag here - I honestly am happy to stay single. And I don't want to say men should never hit on women or ask them out, because that would be stupid, and I do know people who have had good office romances. I just want to be able to participate in office life without having it turn into a romantic mess. It's at the point where I've debated "coming out" as a lesbian (I'm actually bi) just to make it stop. It's also affecting my own self-confidence, honestly. There's a lot of importance in my field of getting evaluations of your work from your fellow students. I want people to value my work because I'm smart and do a good job, not because they happen to be attracted to me. But lately I'm always wondering if people are treating me well because I'm good at my stuff or because they're attracted to me. Another edit before anyone comments - I dress nicely but professionally. Blouses, skirts (knee length or longer) or slacks, low-key makeup and a bit of jewelry. I'm a TA as well as a student, so I try to maintain an appropriate attire for teaching whenever I'm in the office. I do think a lot of it looks good on me, but I'm certainly not wearing low-cut tops and miniskirts or anything that could be construed as looking for attention.

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Im happy being single... getting in a relationship again scares me?
I hate drama I have a really bad time handling it and my last relationship was full of it and I'm scared of getting in a relationship with drama.. I don't know if this is normal or what.. I'm frustrated :/

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POLL: Would you be happy being single for rest of your life?
I think I will. I'm content with my life as it is.

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