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The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
by guest
2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
How to Tackle Your Clutter
by Leo
6 Jan 2012 at 12:19pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. So you’ve been putting off tackling your clutter for months, maybe even years. Papers pile up on a counter, shelves are crammed full of books and magazines and other things, closets are stuffed to the point of spillage, clothes pile up on the floor or furniture, boxes and furniture and [...]
How to Have the Best Year of Your Life (without Setting a Single Goal)
by guest
5 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Jeff Goins of Goins, Writer. This new year, do something different: stop setting goals. If the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, then making resolutions for another year is a sure-fire way to drive yourself crazy. I did [...]


Guilt

Here is your Tuesday STORY on: SELF DEVELOPMENT Half the battle is to understand... If we know we can self develop, then the big question is, why don't we? The answer to that would normally consist of excuse after excuse; on the lines of, not enough time, too busy, I lead an active schedule and I can never find the time. So... if half the battle is to understand then a further quarter is to schedule your time. Time seems to drift by too fast and we can never get anything done. I would suggest we waste our time rather than not manage it properly; but that is not the issue at the moment. We can all have good intentions but unless we use our time efficiently we'll never make any actions. In not making actions we don't self develop. Today's story illustrates the crazy world we live in and what we allow to happen. THE PARADOX OF OUR TIME We have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints; we spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less common sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness. We spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom and lie too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life; we've added years to life, not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour. We've conquered outer space, but not inner space; we've done larger things, but not better things; we've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we've split the atom, but not our prejudice; we write more, but learn less; plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait; we have higher incomes, but lower morals; more food but less appeasement; more acquaintances, but fewer friends; more effort but less success. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication; we've become long on quantity, but short on quality. These are the time of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships. These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure and less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition. These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the show window, and nothing in the stockroom. (Attributed to George Carlin) QUOTE: "Our greatest glory consists not in ever falling... but in rising every time we fall.' (Ralph Waldo Emerson)


having a guilt overload?
it has been two and a half weeks maybe? Since I betrayed him and since then we haven't spoken so I dont know whats going on all I know is that he must hate me!! I think about calling him every day. I wont! Last time I asked for an ex to come back he told me I was worthless down the phone and Iv'e never forgotten the coldness of those words. Anyway, This guy hates me now. Because I told his gf about his cheating, I was angry because I was just a fling for him. So I pretty much stabbed him in the back. But I think about him most days, I thought I was making progress but every time I see the advice saying " you have to let go to move on" something inside me actively resists the words " letting go" when that is all I want to do is let go! Or do I? I have wanted to die because of the pain and then I stopped and said " why? why should I grieve for this person, did he ever think of my feelings? NO! Is he worth it? Not so!" But my heart feels like its being torn apart by mad albatrosses or something, it hurts. I don't want to eat. I am becoming depressed ( I struggle with clinical depression before this happened anyway.) How do I push my feelings aside and look after myself instead? I really, don't want to call, But the urge is strong. All my feelings wan't me to, but my mind says no way. WHEN WILL THE GUILT GO AWAY? could someone say something not useless for once?

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I lied to my boyfriend about something that really shouldn't be lied about. I feel terrible. I need help?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost six months. I'm 15 and he's 17. Around the first month we were dating a was really self cautious and barely let him touch me. I have a history with eating disorders and I hate myself, I see a fat disgusting monster, I didn't let him touch me because I knew he would see the same. He kept asking me why but for some reason I just couldn't tell him the truth. So I made up a story about being molested when I was a child. I dont know what came over me. Im going through a lot of depression and stuff and i wasnt thinking. I said it so fast i didnt even let a thought into my head. How could I lie about something like that? There are people who actually went through that. I hate myself. I'm honestly in love with him but I feel so guilty. The guilt is eating me alive. I've been lying to him all this time. I wrote him a letter explaining the lie and why I did it. I feel like I need to give it to him. But I can't bear to see him hurt/ lose him. I love him so much. I truly do. I know he will never talk to me again. And he's moving soon so I only have a few months left with him. Should I just make sure he knows how much I love him before he moves so hes happy and let my guilt be my punishment? What do I do? :( I'm sorry I'm asking on here. I have no one to talk to.

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Atheists, how do you cope with the guilt that you feel ever since you chose your position?
Did you try to bury it deep down over the years? Does it still reach out to you at times? Do you sometimes take a moment to analyze your past and feel the need to cry out loud?

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Guilt News


Collection of stories is racked with 'Guilt'

4 Feb 2012 at 10:16pm  Guilt Stories

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The issue is Corona?s guilt, not the prosecutors? competence

4 Feb 2012 at 9:39am  Like many who follow the Corona impeachment trial, I am often frustrated by the obvious lack of competence shown by the prosecution team. Repeatedly, they fail to do what needs to be done. They are often unprepared, show sophomoric exposure to rules of evidence, lack tactical skills and fail to anticipate that their own witness might turn hostile against them.

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Ex-mayor of Rosemead admits guilt in bribery case

4 Feb 2012 at 1:11am  John Tran, 36, admits to shaking down a developer for more than $10,000 while on the City Council. He also resigns from the school board and withdraws from an Assembly race. A former Rosemead city official who made a run for state Assembly has agreed to plead guilty to soliciting and accepting more than $10,000 in bribes from a developer.

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Hastings couple admit guilt; son won't be charged

3 Feb 2012 at 8:07pm  Jim and Teresa Hoffman admitted to living off the proceeds of a mortgage fraud and equity-skimming scheme that cost lenders more than $5 million.

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Diary of a new mum: guilt

3 Feb 2012 at 4:39pm  Someone once said to me, not all that long ago in fact, that guilt seems to be a pretty standard part of parenting. ?Mummy Guilt? starts to kick in almost as soon as that second pink line appears on the pregnancy test and only continues to grow the more time progresses.

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Harrell admits guilt in Somer Thompson death

3 Feb 2012 at 3:02pm  UPDATE : The man accused in the slaying death of Somer Renee Thompson pleaded guilty Friday to her murder after accepting a plea deal.

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Billboards Slather On The Guilt With Anti-Cheese Campaign

2 Feb 2012 at 3:26pm  A sensational new billboard in Albany, N.Y., wants to scare people away from cheese. Its creator, a physician turned health activist, says Americans should abandon cheese altogether to prevent obesity.

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The Guilt-Free Handyman Shopping Spree

1 Feb 2012 at 10:46pm  PUT a new tool in the hands of some people, guys especially, and they become giddy at the prospect of all the jobs they can now do. For me, it means one more thing to feel stupid about, and one less excuse to blow off a project that surely could wait another week.

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A no-fry, no guilt recipe for potatoes

1 Feb 2012 at 9:46am  Columnist Alicia Ross roasts spuds at high temperatures to get the flavor and texture just right.

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Four British men admit guilt in London Stock Exchange bomb plot

1 Feb 2012 at 8:26am  A quartet of British men pleaded guilty to their roles in a plan to detonate explosives at the London Stock Exchange and other sites in December 2010.

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