The Little Guide to Contentedness by Leo 18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...] The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active by guest 15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...] Three Little Habits to Find Focus by Leo 10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...] How to Live Well by Leo 7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...] What I?ve Learned About Learning by Leo 3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...] The 39th Lesson by Leo 30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...] How to Fail at Habits by Leo 24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...] Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life by Leo 23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...] Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide by Leo 19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...] Why We Overplan by Leo 17 Apr 2012 at 8:40am
‘A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There is something about my mind, and many people’s minds, that is overly optimistic. We think we can do so much each day, and so we overplan. We fill our plans with so much, confident [...]
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HAPPINESS:
If you are not happy all of the time, then at least be assured that this is how most people exist. It is how most of us seem to perceive our humdrum existence.
Yet however, we can improve this ratio of understanding with practice. With a steady progress we can also become skilful at being happy for longer and more often.
Let me explain with a story how easy it is to approach life in the wrong manner. If you can raise a smile at this story, you'll be aware that this type of anger exists within your own soul.
REVENGE
...Once upon a time, there was a wise man who insisted that to live well, one had to be positive and thankful for all of life.
One day, a traveller came to him and said, 'How can I be positive? Nothing goes right in life! I've been badly hurt by people I have trusted, and now I want revenge!'
The wise man shook his head. 'What would you do to those that hurt you?' he asked.
'I'd tear them limb from limb... I'd ruin their business... I'd...' and he broke off. 'Can you help me get revenge?' he begged.
'Yes'' said the wise man. 'I'll certainly help you, but first you must do two things for me.'
'I will, ' said the traveller.
'First, ' said the wise man, 'I want you to tear a branch off that tree over there.'
The traveller readily went to the tree and twisted off a large branch. 'There you are! What's the second thing?'
The wise man smiled. 'Now put it back, ' he said.
The traveller stood staring. 'I can't do that, ' he said.
'No, ' said the wise man. 'So remember this; it's very easy to wound and destroy, but it is more difficult to repair the damage that has been done. Note that the tree won't hurt you back. It will go on growing and bearing fruit. It's much better to be creative than destructive - - even to people that have hurt you.'...
For every moment you want revenge, and then realise it is both pitiful and destructive, there is a moment of sweetness soon after; as you settle for a positive attitude instead of a negative.
Rather than wallow in your own sadness, rejoice in the skill you have developed to overcome your revenge.
(Unknown Author)
QUOTE: 'Just as a trainer disciplines and calms a wild and wilful steed by subjecting it to skilful and prolonged training, so must the wild, wandering, random activities of body and speech be tamed to make them docile, righteous and skilful.'
(His Holiness the Dalai Lama).
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Dealing with Sadness - Chapel @ The Master's College
best friend going through really tough time right now, how can i make it seem like it will be alright?
well her mother calls her a b**** a lot and makes her do all the cooking, cleaning and taking care of her 6 younger siblings(all under 5th grade) her cousin was just diagnosed with brain cancer yesterday, and has just died today. she was very sad about it...and i avoided her when she told everyone that her cousin was diagnosed with brain cancer...i know it was wrong to do that..but im not good with dealing with sadness...
i just don't know how to deal with it!! its kinda like a one way friend ship...im her friend but she doesn't treat me like her friend......when i talk to her she ALWAYS replies with "well at least you didn't have to...." and then says what her mom made her do..and i get that she needs to vent..but so do i! i wanted to talk to her about the fact that my mom won't even buy me new tennis shoes that i desperately need!!
i just can't really talk to her..she just brings me down...i can't handle that stuff...any suggestions?
HELP!! how can i help my friend out? she is going through an EXTREMELY hard time right now?
well her mother calls her a b**** a lot and makes her do all the cooking, cleaning and taking care of her 6 younger siblings(all under 5th grade) her cousin was just diagnosed with brain cancer yesterday, and has just died today. she was very sad about it...and i avoided her when she told everyone that her cousin was diagnosed with brain cancer...i know it was wrong to do that..but im not good with dealing with sadness...
i just don't know how to deal with it!! its kinda like a one way friend ship...im her friend but she doesn't treat me like her friend......when i talk to her she ALWAYS replies with "well at least you didn't have to...." and then says what her mom made her do..and i get that she needs to vent..but so do i! i wanted to talk to her about the fact that my mom won't even buy me new tennis shoes that i desperately need!!
i just can't really talk to her..she just brings me down...i can't handle that stuff...any suggestions?
who has the right to be mad?
me and my bf have recently got in a fight. the fight was over him breaking a promise to me. He promised me he would come visit me on one of our month-aversarys and he didn't come. I asked him not to make promises that he wasn't sure he couldn't keep several times before he made this promise. So, we ended up arguing when I told him that the next promises he made wouldn't mean as much to me because he broke his promise. He got so hurt that he didn't want to talk to me and he started complaining that he's apologized a lot of times. I ended up feeling terrible for what I said and now I feel like he hates me. We really don't have argument but this one came out of nowhere! Now I have been crying every day since then and I really have an issue with dealing with sadness. So please tell me, should I be feeling bad, or was I right to be mad at him?
Oh and I haven't told him I might be pregnant... and I want to resolve this before I find out, in case I am. I don't want him to stay with me just because of a baby, I want him to stay because he loves me. So please help:] thank you!
true guys arent like us and don't care about this stuff. But when we first started dating, he told me he did, in fact he brought it up! Anyway though, thanks for the help:] We talked about it and we've decided to move on:]
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