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The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]
Why We Overplan
by Leo
17 Apr 2012 at 8:40am
‘A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There is something about my mind, and many people’s minds, that is overly optimistic. We think we can do so much each day, and so we overplan. We fill our plans with so much, confident [...]

 

 

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Causes Of Sadness

Here is your Friday STORY on: HAPPINESS: Where do we go to find happiness? Is it in our favourite room, our favourite chair, our favourite holiday destination or our favourite food? Think of your favourite food and promise it yourself for later in the day; what do you think will happen? For the rest of the day you'll have a spring in your step knowing you've a pleasure to indulge in later. If you were to assess the quantity of happiness during the day; firstly leading up to your favourite food and secondly upon eating and resting following the meal; what was the longest period of happiness - leading up to, or actually eating? You could have experienced 8 hours of eagerness to eat your favourite food; yet the actual eating and resting took just one hour. It would appear sensible therefore to actively understand our own yearnings and aspirations and set certain goals and targets each day. Today's story is one that needs a tissue at hand in readiness for the odd tear of joy. Nothing will appear difficult to someone who believes there is something to accomplish. If you have a spring in your step and your general persona is happy, nothing will be a problem, just a challenge. THE BEST TEACHER EVER There is a story from many years ago of a primary school teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And, Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers. At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise, Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around." His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle." His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken." Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class." By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful paper and tied with pretty ribbons, except for Teddy's; his present which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my mom used to." After the children left she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and writing, and arithmetic. Instead she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets." A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honours. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favourite teacher he ever had in his whole life. Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favourite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer - the letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD. The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference." Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you." (Unknown Author) (A story Dr. Wayne Dyer endearingly refers to as 'The Teddy Story' in his most recent lectures.) QUOTE: 'Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of travelling.' (Maragret Lee Runbeck) [[ct]]: Causes Of Sadness

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On the road with Penn State coach

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Kimbra happy to be back in Perth

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139th Brigade happy to be home

18 May 2012 at 6:27pm  Love and happiness were everywhere you looked. They are sons and daughter, husbands and wives, fathers and mothers. They are also soldiers, grateful to be home after a year long deployment to Iraq and Kuwait.

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Taylor Armstrong: Be Happy With Yourself And You Will Be Happy In Love

18 May 2012 at 4:00pm  The ?RHOBH? star has had her share of turmoil when it comes to love, but she?s also found the best ingredient to succeed in it: self-happiness. From surviving domestic abuse to raising her daughter Kennedy all on her own ? Taylor Armstrong is one strong woman. But she hasn?t always felt as self-assured as she [...]

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What We Know Now About How to Be Happy

17 May 2012 at 9:07am  Recent science has shown how important our minds are to our bodies, but they also reveal how difficult it is to define and promote happiness.

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How to have a happy body

14 May 2012 at 5:56pm  Having a happy body doesn't have to be hard, says physiotherapist Anna-Louise Bouvier. Here's how you do it.

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How to Be Happy Without the Perfect Female Body

10 May 2012 at 9:47am  Being thin and beautiful doesn't sound like cause for concern, but that ideal can lead young women to be highly dissatisfied with their bodies, something that can bring about unhealthy behaviors. Now, researchers have found that certain factors, including family support and stress-busting strategies, can act as a buffer against such pressures.

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Is alcohol the best way to kill afternoon lonelyness?
I ride my bike in the mornings at night either roam the streets or get drunk depending on which shift I work my summer job as a porter.No hope of getting friends at school,they're too narrow minded and my only friend is leaving forever this summer.But can't imagine myself studying for anything better than a dead end job anyway.I know "I" and "me" and "my" are the main cause of sadness,but I'm not selfobsessed just don't want to utterly waste my summer.Please no preaching just adequate advice! Thx

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How can I get over him?
I fell in love with someone online and long-distance dated for a short time. That was 3 years ago. Since then we have been talking on and off. I love him more than anything and he says he still has feelings for me, but he's dating other girls and is not interested in putting in the effort for me. He's been a jerk to me and about 2 months ago he started ignoring me. I think this is the best thing for me but I am suffering so much. I've become extremely depressed. Recently I have started having suicidal thoughts, believing I will always be suffering over him. I have a history of depression and anxiety but this has been the main cause of sadness for the past 3 years. It's the main reason I was put on medication, although I haven't told my doctor about the reason for my sadness. I feel hopeless. I'm have reoccurring dreams about him and break down almost every night. I just feel like it's been so long and I will never move on. No one measures up in my mind. Any advice would be helpful.. thanks.

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