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The Pause Upon Which All Else Relies
by Leo
9 Feb 2012 at 8:56am
Post written by Leo Babauta. There is one little habit I’ve learned that has changed everything else in my life. The pause. When we fail, it’s because we act on urges without thinking, without realizing it. We have the urge to eat junk, and we do it. We have the urge to check email instead [...]
The Thousand Cuts Fitness Program
by Leo
6 Feb 2012 at 10:43am
Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ve trained for marathons, triathlons, 10Ks, a 13.5-hour challenge, Ubanathlons, and more. But my favorite fitness program isn’t one where you train for a major event. It’s where you get fit by a thousand little actions. When the actions are tiny, they are easy. You have no excuse. You can [...]
The Two-Headed Beast of Successful Habit Change
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2 Feb 2012 at 9:20am
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Tyler Tervooren of Advanced Riskology. I used to have a lot of bad habits. I still do, but I used to have a lot more. Here?s just a small sampling: I woke up late and went to bed early. I procrastinated on my most important work. I [...]
Create the Habit of Meditation, & the Zen Habits Premium Membership
by Leo
31 Jan 2012 at 3:03pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. It’s something I should have created a long time ago: the Zen Habits Premium Membership, and a mini-course that’s included with it called Create the Habit of Meditation. The membership is a monthly subscription of $19.99, but really it’s a commitment to changing your life, and the tools needed to [...]
Creating Silence from Chaos
by Leo
27 Jan 2012 at 3:20pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. We are often afraid of silence, because its emptiness feels idle, boring, unproductive, and scary. And so we fill our lives with chaos, noise, clutter. But silence can be lovely, and therapeutic, and powerful. It can be the remedy for our stress and the habits that crush us. If we [...]
The Habits That Crush Us
by Leo
23 Jan 2012 at 11:26am
‘Don’t panic.’ ~Douglas Adams Post written by Leo Babauta. Why is it that we cannot break the bad habits that stand in our way, crushing our desires to live a healthy life, be fit, simplify, be happier? How is it that our best intentions are nearly always beaten? We want to be focused and productive, [...]
Learning to Sit Alone, in a Quiet Empty Room
by Leo
17 Jan 2012 at 1:49pm
‘All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. Think about some of the problems of our daily lives, and how many of them would be eased if we could learn to sit alone, in a quiet empty room, with contentment. If [...]
Life as a Conscious Practice
by Leo
13 Jan 2012 at 9:15am
‘Everything is practice.’ ~Pele Post written by Leo Babauta. When we learn a martial art, or ballet, or gymnastics, or soccer ? we consciously practice movements in a deliberate way, repeatedly. By conscious, repeated practice, we become good at those movements. Our entire lives are like this, but we’re often less conscious of the practice. [...]
Your Top 10 Clutter Questions, Answered
by Leo
11 Jan 2012 at 11:33am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Decluttering is a skill that you learn with practice, just like any skill. And just like other skills, there are many little questions and problems you need answered and solved as you get started. Those of you taking the Clutterfat Challenge this month are facing these problems, and I’m here [...]
Clearing Your Life for a New Year
by Leo
9 Jan 2012 at 12:55pm
Post written by Leo Babauta. Every January, people rush out and get a gym membership, set a list of goals or resolutions, and get ready to take on a new year of frenetic activity. Unfortunately, we don’t often clear space to make room for all this new stuff. The beginning of the year is a [...]
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Being Single And Happy

Here is your Tuesday STORY on: SELF DEVELOPMENT: Why do we choose to accept a first impression? It seems that we have grown up with accepting them and therefore it becomes a habitual act. This accepting a habitual act alone proves how many other aspects of our life can be clouded by judgements made from assumptions. Is accepting a first impression actually the first impression? More often than not it is the second impression. The first impression is a gut feeling that we discard incorrectly. I was out shopping with the family over the weekend and walked passed a tramp. The children stared intently at the tramp and after we had passed they gave me a barrage of questions. At eight and six years old my two girls were wondering was he a nice man or a naughty stranger, and why was he sitting on the floor? I explained the reasons for his need to sit and beg, but also continued with that we all would assume that he is a horrible person, because of his unshaven and unwashed appearance. Then I followed with, the way he appears on the outside doesn't mean that it is the way he is on the inside. He maybe able to laugh about his misgivings and have learnt some very valuable lessons in life, his soul maybe enriched with love and affection. We are better to reserve judgement than fill in the gaps and complete our first impression without all the facts. Yet, nevertheless as with our life, we seem to be making decisions with fewer facts than should be advised. To improve our self development we need introduce a goodness that prevents the proverbial first impression being accepted. Making assumptions means that you are taking risks, and taking risks causes heartache and problems. When you first see a tramp you show immediate empathy and sorrow; and only then do you put up your guard and make the recognizable 'first impression'. The more you assume the more you are making decisions without the full facts. This leads to inaccuracies in your life; you'll be continually going over ground you've already trodden. Spot the two first impressions accepted in this story. Watch also for the gathering of people who act as though they were sheep and follow everyone else's lead and make the same assumptions. HIS NAME IS JOHN His name is John. He has wild hair, wears a T-shirt with holes in it, jeans and no shoes. This was literally his wardrobe for his entire four years of college. He is brilliant. Kinda esoteric and very, very bright. He became a Christian while attending college. Across the street from the campus is a well-dressed, very conservative church. They want to develop a ministry to the students, but are not sure how to go about it. One day John decides to go there. He walks in with no shoes, jeans, his T-shirt, and wild hair. The service has already started and so John starts down the aisle looking for a seat. The church is completely packed and he can't find a seat. By now people are looking a bit uncomfortable, but no one says anything. John gets closer and closer and closer to the pulpit and when he realizes there are no seats, he just squats down right on the carpet. (Although perfectly acceptable behaviour at a college fellowship, trust me, this had never happened in this church before!) By now the people are really uptight, and the tension in the air is thick. About this time, the minister realizes that from way at the back of the church, a deacon is slowly making his way toward John. Now the deacon is in his eighties, has silver-grey hair, a three-piece suit, and a pocket watch. A godly man, very elegant, very dignified, very courtly. He walks with a cane and as he starts walking toward this boy, everyone is saying to themselves, "You can't blame him for what he's going to do. How can you expect a man of his age and of his background to understand some college kid on the floor?" It takes a long time for the man to reach the boy. The church is utterly silent except for the clicking of the man's cane. All eyes are focused on him. You can't even hear anyone breathing. The people are thinking, "The minister can't even preach the sermon until the deacon does what he has to do." And now they see this elderly man drop his cane on the floor. With great difficulty he lowers himself and sits down next to John and sits with him so he won't be alone. Everyone chokes up with emotion. When the minister gains control he says, "What I'm about to preach, you will never remember. What you have just seen, you will never forget." (Unknown Author) QUOTE: "Goodness is the only investment that never fails.' (Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Highest Laws, 1854)


Are there any men or women out there who prefer being single?
I am a 30 year-old woman who has never been in a long-term relationship. I am much happier being alone and don't see myself getting married or having children. I have a great education, a great job, a great family, good friends, and I will be moving to the city of my dreams in a few months. My future does not involve a man or kids. I was not 'traumatized' by a previous relationship. I have all that I need and don't want to add a husband to my life. Are there any others who feel the same? How do you deal with people who just cannot fathom that you are single and happy?

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Why have I become this? Warning, extremely long, but please I need some help by someone at least..?
Sigh, this year has not been good at all for me so I'll spare you some of the details from my previous relationship and instead try to give you the whole view of my dating life. Plain and simple, I have always been a "nice guy". I was single my whole entire life up until the latter half of high school. I never knew as to why I was single, but I thought it was because of my looks and because I was shy. So as stated I have always been the nice guy. I believed in showing a girl the respect that she deserved and giving her everything that I possibly could. I was always there for the girls that I liked, I was always a shoulder to cry on, everything. So it's to no ones surprise that a lot of the times that I fell for someone I always friend zoned myself. During middle school/ high school I was in love with a girl for about 3 years. She never kissed me nor did we go out, but I knew that I loved her. She knew that I loved her. I would always see how her boyfriend would screw up and I always told myself, "Damn what a douche bag, I would never treat my girlfriend like that!". But I was her best friend and it's safe to say that she never saw me more than that. Well at some point by the grace and pity of the divine, I was blessed with a girlfriend. I thought she was great, I thought she loved me, I loved her (or so I thought) and I thought we were both destined to be together forever. She left me for some rocker type douche bag (she was a rocker type as well) and everything seemed like it was going to hell for me. About 6 months later I got over her. I was now armed with the strength of being able to get over a girl, knowing that it would be alright and to be careful when falling in love. I didn't have any feelings for anyone for a while, but I was okay with that because I knew that it was me-time again and I was enjoying it. I was single and happy, something I did not know was possible. Well a few months later I fell for a girl. She wasn't really my type, as in..she was really hard to talk to (social butterfly type. I am more of a shy-quiet type). But still I persisted and I tried. I never asked her out and about 6 months later I gave up. The reason I gave up was because I was getting tired of her excuses for not wanting to hang out with me (she always had plans, made it apparent of her intentions with me) so I actually started to like a mutual friend of ours. I started liking her in July, didn't ask her out until November. Any chance of us being together was DOA that day. I friend zoned myself..again. I spoke to my best friend and I said that I was done looking for love and a serious relationship. After a lifetime of failure and trying to be a great guy (which I didn't doubt that I was), I felt so screwed over and hurt, that I felt like I needed to take revenge. I was going to start college in February and I was so ready to put myself out there like never before, not commit to any one girl and break as many hearts as I possibly could. I was dead set on that. I prepared by starting to check out girls, I became a stereotypical guy and started looking at breasts and buttocks (IDK if Y!A blocks those words out, feel free to insert your own slang). And I was okay with everything that I was doing because I was single, I felt like I had to be a guy for once (I never was girl-crazy in middle school nor high school) and I just felt like I needed to let loose. Yep, those plans went to hell in a handbasket pretty quickly. My best friend fell for me (different best friend, not the one I loved in MS/HS). I knew that she was a great girl and I didn't want to break her heart, though at first I did. But I kept thinking about it. And I thought about it for like a month when in the end I was convinced that I really did like her (I was confused as to what I felt for her, it wasn't a clear answer to me). I decided to give it a shot. Two months later the grim reality of my hastiness to come up with a decision showed its ugly head and we broke up because I didn't know if I liked her or not anymore. If she had been just any girl I would have probably stayed with her, but she was my best friend and I knew that I just didn't feel it for her like she did for me and I felt like we couldn't continue like that. I felt like I wasn't ready for a relationship. So much had gone wrong in the past that I actually became unable to and afraid of commitment. I still had a desire to break hearts. This whole problem came up when I read something by her and that really got me thinking. She was what I always wanted, so what happened to me? I gave up a top-tier girl for the likes of something superficial in life. And what angers me the most about it is that I am okay with it. Or so I think, I don't know how I feel. I know that I am becoming (if not, already am) a douche bag. What's wrong with me? I am 19. It's not that I want to get laid, I'm a virgin, proud and I only intend to lose it to the person that I love. @Peggy S: Yeah that's how feel sometimes too, that I never got to experience it and that this is my time to do so. I just feel like I've let something great walk out of my life. @Julie Lynn: Thank you for your input, now to go bed. @AskMeWhy: Yeah you made a good point, I do feel like I can't fully be "dark". It's just that this feeling goes against what I've always believed in, that it makes me feel like I've lost what made me special. @Raven: Yeah I guess I was looking for text book love. She was my exact opposite, yet we were very compatible, it's just that she doesn't deserve to get anything less than the best from me. To all: I don't intend to chase her. I already did but I'm just not ready for someone like her. I'd do more harm than good. She's someone I'd really try to go all out for, and that's just more than I can give at the moment.

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Please give me some songs about being single and happy.?
Pretty much the same message as what Ridin' Solo by Jason Derulo employs. I need some songs to cheer me up. So please help me. Thank you guys. :)

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Is being SINGLE a good thing? YES! :D

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Single, Happy and content

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Happy Being Single - Trailer

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Happy Darwin Day and Evolution Weekend - Mother Nature Network (blog)

10 Feb 2012 at 10:56am 

Mother Nature Network (blog)
Happy Darwin Day and Evolution Weekend
Mother Nature Network (blog)
There's also Julia Child's version, if you're feeling more literal. ? Attend a Darwin Day event: There were more than 800 Darwin Day events worldwide in 2011, and darwinday.org offers a partial list of those being held in 2012. Some are one-day affairs ...

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Author: Living alone widespread, can be healthy for you (Includes interview) ...

10 Feb 2012 at 9:23am 

DigitalJournal.com
Author: Living alone widespread, can be healthy for you (Includes interview)
DigitalJournal.com
More people across the world are happy being single and living alone, according to a new book, and author Eric Klinenberg explains why going solo doesn't always mean being lonely and depressed, contrary to misconceptions. You've likely seen a movie or ...

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Walz happy to see STOCK Act bill pass the House - Albert Lea Tribune

10 Feb 2012 at 8:47am 

Walz happy to see STOCK Act bill pass the House
Albert Lea Tribune
A spokesman for Cantor told Politico that Bachus was pressured to drop the planned vote because several committee members ?felt the legislation was flawed and being recklessly moved solely in response to media pressure.? Cantor reversed course after ...

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Happy to be single again - Deccan Chronicle

10 Feb 2012 at 7:36am 

Happy to be single again
Deccan Chronicle
Being single, now I can concentrate more on my career. Besides, that relationship was going nowhere.? Veteran actor Virendra Saxena is not a cleanliness freak but he holds the axiom ?cleanliness is next to godliness? very close to his heart.



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Kelly Clarkson: 'I'm Still Single... And Still Not A Lesbian!' - Entertainmen...

9 Feb 2012 at 2:55pm 

Entertainmentwise
Kelly Clarkson: 'I'm Still Single... And Still Not A Lesbian!'
Entertainmentwise
"When I tell people I'm happy being single, they don't believe me. They say, 'You have to be miserable being alone'." Again addressing the sexuality debacle - which she's previously rebuffed in 2009 and 2010 - she said: "I'm not gay. If I was, I'd say, ...
Kelly Clarkson Insists She's Not Gay - Happy Being SingleNational Ledger
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Kelly Clarkson: 'I'm not a lesbian and I'm happy being single' - Digital Spy UK

9 Feb 2012 at 2:02pm 

Musicrooms.net
Kelly Clarkson: 'I'm not a lesbian and I'm happy being single'
Digital Spy UK
'When I tell people I'm happy being single, they don't believe me. They say, 'You have to be miserable being alone'." Clarkson also reiterated her previous statements that she is not a lesbian, saying: "I'm not gay. If I was, I'd say, 'I love women!
Kelly Clarkson 'happy' with love lifeBelfast Telegraph
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Kelly Clarkson: If I Was A Gay, I'd Say "I Love Women!"MTV UK
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Single yet happy - Inquirer.net

9 Feb 2012 at 11:36am 

Inquirer.net
Single yet happy
Inquirer.net
Being ?Forever Alone? doesn't necessarily mean you have to be forever lonely. ?It's definitely possible to be single and happy,? says Kat Gorordo, a graduating student of DLSU who wants to study Law. ?Happiness is not based on circumstance, ...



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Happy Hour: Should NASCAR distance itself from wrestling? - Yahoo! Sports (blog)

9 Feb 2012 at 8:01am 

Yahoo! Sports (blog)
Happy Hour: Should NASCAR distance itself from wrestling?
Yahoo! Sports (blog)
I don't have a problem with Cena being a part of the festivities, though I get that people want to distance NASCAR from the "fake wrestling" image. (Conspiracy theorists take note: which driver compared NASCAR to the WWE? The same one who just won the ...

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Valentine's Day survival guide - Buffalo News

9 Feb 2012 at 6:52am 

Buffalo News
Valentine's Day survival guide
Buffalo News
Being single on Valentine's Day isn't the end of the world. It may be a disappointment at first, but as long as you spend some quality time with the people you care about, it's almost impossible to not be happy, even if you hate Valentine's Day.
80% of Single Women have Sent Themselves Flowers on Valentine's Day: PollPR Web (press release)
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Avoid These Valentine's Don'tsSan Francisco Chronicle
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