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The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]
Why We Overplan
by Leo
17 Apr 2012 at 8:40am
‘A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There is something about my mind, and many people’s minds, that is overly optimistic. We think we can do so much each day, and so we overplan. We fill our plans with so much, confident [...]

 

 

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Here is your Thursday STORY on: ADAPTING TO CHANGE: When you take on a new role or new profession you can easily become a different person. What suddenly happens is that your new role consumes your old identity. What you need to do is ADAPT TO CHANGE. This all consuming act may not be seen within a day, but it may be seen within a month. With all due respect to graduates, as we feature one within today's story, they may well be academic, but most every person suffers the trials and tribulations of our emotions. The Oxford graduate is succumbed by his own career and its very purpose, so much so he cannot see the obvious. It is almost as if he is wearing blinkers. This very trait, of not recognising when our emotions bulldoze our thought pattern, will only lead to headstrong decisions. Allow this next illustration to explain the problem in a regular day to day event. A SIMPLE LIFE An Oxford businessman was at a local bar when a small band of musicians were just finishing a gig. Inside the small pub was a very large audience who had been pleased immeasurably. The Oxford graduate complimented the Barnsley musician and lead singer on the quality of his performance and vocal talent and asked how long it had taken to become so accomplished. The Barnsley musician replied only a little while. The Oxford graduate then asked why didn't he perform more often and earn more money? The Barnsley musician said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs. The Oxford graduate then asked the Barnsley musician how he spent the rest of his time. The Barnsley man said, "I sleep late, I practice a little music, play with my children, take an afternoon nap with my wife, Yvonne, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my comrades. I have a full and busy life, sir." The Oxford graduate scoffed, "I am an Oxford Graduate in business Studies, with honours, and could help you. You should spend more time practicing and performing your skill, with the proceeds, buy bigger and better sound and lighting equipment. With the proceeds of a better sound, you could encourage the best musicians in the region to join your band; eventually you would have a masterful band who commands a huge fee. Instead of selling your services to the local pub, you could sell yourself onto the club circuit, then onto the theatre circuit and before long you could be supporting an international band. You would control the production and eventually write your own songs that could earn you millions around the world. "You would need to leave this small village you call Barnsley and move to London, then New York, Sydney and Los Angeles where you will run your expanding enterprise." The Barnsley musician asked, "But sir, how long will this all take?" To which the Oxford graduate replied, "3 - 6 years." "But what then, sir?" asked the Barnsley man. The Oxford graduate laughed, and said, "That's the best part! When the time is right, you would announce your band upon the stock market and sell your company stock to the public. You'll become very rich; you would make millions upon millions!" "Millions, sir?" replied the Barnsley musician, "Then what?" 'Once you had all that money and freedom, what would YOU do?' Said the Oxford graduate. The Barnsley musician replied, "Sir I would retire. Move to the small village life, as I experience here in Barnsley, where I would sleep late, practice a little music, play with my kids, take an afternoon nap with my wife, Yvonne, stroll to the village in the evenings where I could sip wine and play my guitar with my comrades." (Adapted by the Editor) QUOTE: 'Very little is needed to make life happy. It is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.' (Marcus Aurelius) [[ct]]: Avoid Unhappiness

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What is the best mix of the available mechanisms for the human animal to make himself happy?
Do you think that he should attempt to maintain a constant level of happiness,(as opposed to avoiding unhappiness),even if it is less intense as a result of it being constant? I think this might be the best way.There must be a best possible combination of means,even if it doesn't completely save us from all unhappiness.Perhaps we should be working on this "better way" so that all of us will benefit individually and as a whole.Perhaps we can quicken the evolution of the mind and improve the condition of humanity. (Yes,I'm new.Very new.) Wouldn't it be nice to make reality into an actual "heaven" of sorts. All opinions welcome.Thank you... BTW,ignore the name.I've been using it to bug the religious people because I didn't understand.I'm actually thinking about changing it. When I say that I didn't understand,I mean that I didn't realize that they were just trying to do what we are all trying to do,make ourselves happy.I may start taking it easier on them.

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All my life I live to avoid pain both physical and emotional and yet all my life I suffer.?
I have recently realized that while I strive to avoid pain I do nothing to SEEK happiness...equating "no pain" with "happiness" and suddenly I see they are NOT equal. The problem is......how does one seek happiness as a survival technique along with avoiding UNhappiness. A friend once said that not getting hurt by my husband was NOT a "GOOD" day...but merely survival. I have equated not getting hurt with a good day. And of course that is not anywhere NEAR a feeling of "happy". I do not know how to seek "happy". Any ideas??

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What do you think about the Abortion debate?
It appears that the date of viability is most suited to the abortion debate. Both sides of which have reasons to argue abortion?s permanent permissibility or impermissibility. The answer must be found in-between the two extremes and therefore should not exist as an absolutist approach. A foetus has no intrinsic value but does have an effect of the happiness of the mother which should be accounted for. It should occur as early as possible in pregnancy to avoid unhappiness to the foetus in terms of pain, for the nervous system is well developed within the legal constrictions of abortion. As a foetus cannot express preferences or desires it cannot be a part of the moral community until birth, therefore early abortion should again be encouraged to remove the threat of simple geography influencing the outcome of human rights.

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