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The Little Guide to Contentedness
by Leo
18 May 2012 at 1:31pm
‘He who is contented is rich.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There has been little in my life that has made as much an impact as learning to be content — with my life, where I am, what I’m doing, what I have, who I’m with, who I am. This little trick changes [...]
The 9-5 Guide to Staying Active
by guest
15 May 2012 at 9:00am
Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Matt Madeiro of Make Every Day Count. Let?s see if this rings any bells. When the clock hits 8, I sit. I plop back in my rolling chair, crack open the laptop on my desk, and spend the next nine hours with my butt glued firmly to [...]
Three Little Habits to Find Focus
by Leo
10 May 2012 at 11:42am
‘Distraction is the only thing that consoles us for miseries and yet it is itself the greatest of our miseries.’ ~Blaise Pascal Post written by Leo Babauta. I’ll be the first to admit that I fall victim to the trap of the Internet — a wonderful empowering tool that can fill your day with distractions, [...]
How to Live Well
by Leo
7 May 2012 at 1:59pm
‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’ ~Seneca Post written by Leo Babauta. I’m not a rich man, nor do I fly around the world and drink champagne with famous people in exotic locales, nor do I own a sports car or SUV or a yacht. And yet, [...]
What I?ve Learned About Learning
by Leo
3 May 2012 at 9:07am
‘We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself.’ ~Lloyd Alexander Post written by Leo Babauta. I am a teacher and an avid learner, and I’m passionate about both. I’m a teacher because I help Eva homeschool our kids — OK, [...]
The 39th Lesson
by Leo
30 Apr 2012 at 9:05am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Today (April 30) is my 39th Un-un-birthday, and as usual, the day is a good day to pause and reflect. Last year I wrote 38 Life Lessons I?ve Learned in 38 Years, and people seemed to find some use in it. This year, I thought I’d share an additional lesson [...]
How to Fail at Habits
by Leo
24 Apr 2012 at 11:28am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Before I learned how to change habits, I was stuck. I kept trying to change various habits — running, eating healthier, waking earlier, getting out of debt, ending procrastination — and I kept failing. I got very good at failing, in fact. Looking back on those days, given the power [...]
Webinar: How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life
by Leo
23 Apr 2012 at 8:00am
Post written by Leo Babauta. Yesterday I conducted a free webinar, “How I Used the Power of Bad Habits to Change My Life“, and the video is below. The webinar was held Mon. April 23), and in it I talked about my struggle with bad habits, why bad habits are so powerful, and how I [...]
Crazy Talk: The Do-What-You-Love Guide
by Leo
19 Apr 2012 at 11:36am
‘Everything you can imagine is real.’ ~Pablo Picasso Post written by Leo Babauta. When I wrote the first words of this blog, more than five years ago, I had no idea those few keystrokes would change my life. I thought I was doing nothing more than reflecting on the changes that had been happening in [...]
Why We Overplan
by Leo
17 Apr 2012 at 8:40am
‘A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ ~Lao Tzu Post written by Leo Babauta. There is something about my mind, and many people’s minds, that is overly optimistic. We think we can do so much each day, and so we overplan. We fill our plans with so much, confident [...]

 

 

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Here is your Monday STORY on: LOVE: I write today's Daily Wisdom knowing of its truth. We dream and read how love should be perfect. It is not too long before subconsciously that is how we expect it to be. So if it doesn't measure up we question its very existence. My life wouldn't be too dissimilar to most. I have a family I love and seldom does anything question its intensity, or for the purpose of today's subject, its perfection. I may know where to turn for some inspirational wisdom, but under pressure, these circumstances can alter. I use the word pressure, when it could be words such as stress or confusion. The route of my dilemma however was nothing so grand; it was toothache. This very pain had been frustrating my approach to everything. In other words I was on a short fuse. I would guess however my version of a short fuse will differ in time and intensity than most. My two children were to be annoying sooner than normal and this had caused me distress as I saw this play of frustration unfold. I also found that my normal politeness was lost and every comment was more forthright and demanding. Soon to be an explosion! All because of toothache... I am a man, and was sure the toothache would disappear. Rather than explain any more of my own personal story, I would hope you could see how a 'Stitch in time could save nine.' Had I realised sooner I needed attention at a dentist then my fuse would have remained long. When you are in love every imperfection is accepted, to the point of being an attribute to the love. When you live on a short fuse those small imperfections are not accepted anymore. The very fact you are questioning these imperfections is for a reason that is self inflicted. I can confirm that during this play of pain and anguish that I was experiencing, the more I realised I was doing it, the more the fuse shortened. I was becoming more and more frustrated. I was questioning the very perfection of each member of the family unit. Imperfections are tolerated, accepted and adored in love. Perfection does not exist, only in love. Do not search for perfection, search for love. Whilst this next story, a Zen story, means little on its own, if it is taken in context with 'Perfection comes after love, ' you'll understand it better. PERFECTION DOESN'T EXIST 'I'm getting married on the morrow, Mulla, ' pronounced his friend, smiling from ear to ear. Mulla Nusrudin was quiet and thoughtful. 'Isn't marriage wonderful, Mulla. It is quite the best! Have you ever considered getting married, Mulla?' Mulla Nasrudin sighed, 'In my youth I thought of nothing else. In fact, I so wanted to find the perfect wife I travelled the world searching for her. In Damascus, I met a woman who was beautiful, spiritual and loving, but, alas, she had no worldly knowledge. In Isphahan, I met a woman who was beautiful, loving and worldly, but, alas, she was not interested in the spiritual life.' 'Where did you travel to next, Mulla?' asked his friend. 'I forgot where, but I met a woman who was truly spiritual, loving and worldly, but, alas, she was not beautiful. Finally, I went to Cairo and there, after much searching, I found the perfect wife. She was everything I wanted her to be. She was perfect, ' sighed Mulla Nasrudin. 'If she was so perfect, why did you not marry her, Mulla?' asked the friend. 'Alas, ' said Mulla Nasrudin, shaking his head, 'she was, unfortunately, looking for the perfect husband!' (An old Sufi story) The clue here of course is that Mulla would need to be in love first! Before perfection would exist.The quote that follows also shows how, when in love, the world is better. QUOTE: 'When you have loved as she has loved, you grow old beautifully." (W. Somerset Maugham). [[ct]]: Avoid Sorrow

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CR7 plays hard to get about his future - Marca

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Taylor Armstrong: Be Happy With Yourself And You Will Be Happy In Love - omg!...

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What We Know Now About How to Be Happy - Atlantic Online

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hi! thank u so much for considering to help! this is an essay for my english class. my teacher is REAALLY picky, and she gave me an F on my previous essay. im really desperate to find help and hopefully get an A this time to average my grade out. all im asking is for you to please read this and point out anything wrong i might have done, and if it is, please right how you would have done it yourself. u dont know how much i appreciate what your doing, thank you soooo much everyone! u dont know how happy ur making happy. One might think that a world without pain and suffering is preferable to the world in which we live today. I thought that way until I read The Giver. This book caused me to realize that barriers, such as pain, are actually necessities in life. Without obstacles, we would never learn from mistakes and gain wisdom. In this book, the community in which the characters lived in was one in which individuals had no power to make choices. They felt no pain, endured no suffering, and made no mistakes because of the strict set of rules within the organizational system. Since people did no wrong, they never had a chance to experience the self-assurance we obtain from learning from our mistakes. The author, Lois Lowry, conveys the message that the power of individuals to make choices is necessary for humans to experience happiness and fulfillment. Through her writing, she proves to the reader that it is necessary to endure the pain of past mistakes and understand them, in order to gain the wisdom needed to move ahead in life. The reason why they felt no pain of any kind or suffering was due to the fact that every hard aspect that we endure in our lifetime was in a way, deleted from theirs. In offering solutions to people who need them, the leaders of the community prevented people from making their own choices. The community had strict rules that all citizens had to obey. These rules placed restrictions on freedom of choice, individuality, emotions, and human experience. By obeying these rules, the citizens of the community had exchanged their individuality, for equality. By sacrificing their freedom of choice, the right of choosing their own spouses, their own jobs, and the ability to see colors giving them an opportunity to express their individuality, was all eliminated from their lives. Every individual in the society was assigned a job based on their abilities. Citizens were assigned compatible spouses, and later assigned exactly two children. The children were not born by the mother that they were assigned to, they were born to other birthmothers, and had never seen them before. When they were born, they spent one year in a Nurturing Center. Then after given to the family units, they grew and later moved on to their own lives, while their parents grew too old to function in the community and were ?released,? or killed after spending one year in the House of the Old. All their lives were based on this same routine, without a choice, whether they liked it or not. Without colors, they were all alike and equal, contributing to what they called, ?sameness,? its painless, warless, and mostly emotionless state of tranquility and harmony. Emotions were eliminated from their lives to avoid sorrow, pain, and sadness, and even love! Before the memory was transferred to him, Jonas had been missing out on the warm feeling that families share, the feeling of love and care. With love came negative features, if someone died, you will feel sad and depressed, which wasn?t good for their ?painless community.? Jonas came to realizes how lacking and empty life in his community really was. The memories transferred to him made his life richer and more meaningful. But in exchange for the community?s peaceful lives, the people of the community had lost the capacity to feel deep passion about anything. Today, we all fear making a wrong choice and going through bad consequences. Lowry illustrated a world where that fear did not exist. All choices were made for the citizens, and no wrong choices were made. We slowly came to realize that these bad consequences are what shape who we are as individuals. We learn from the things we do wrong through trial and error and learn what things to do in our future decisions. Each time we do something wrong, we learn from our mistakes and gain more wisdom. The community abandoned all memories of pain, war, and emotion, leaving only the Giver to know about pain and wrong decisions made in the past. The Giver was the only person in the community that had enough wisdom to make important decisions. He was the one who everyone looked up to in order to avoid making the mistakes of the past. Everyone else had decisions made for them and was almost blind when it came to an unidentified circumstance. Like for an example, when they saw an airplane. The community did not know what to do! To us, seeing an airplane is such an unimportant coincidence, but the citizens had to get information from

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